Ptsd And Attending Magistrates Court

[Person trying]

This is my first post and I hope it's in the right section.

My ex housemate was a wolf in sheep's clothung , and after the 'honey moon' period was over he started to show his true self. Living under his control for 3 years has affected me in so many ways, life just isn't easy any more. He took my car from me shortly before I left to return home with my parents.

The car in question was registered as SORN and still in my name, when he appears to have driven it and been caught in camera. After receiving a fine months on, I have appealed to the court explaining my situation. I now have to attend court tomorrow for a statutory declaration. I'm petrified about it. My anxiety is so bad that I can't sit still ever, and I'm worried about how it will all go.

Has anyone had any similar experiences?

 

[Ehurag]

It sounds to me like you are in the right, you have proof of the car being yours, and proof that he took it (and is responsible for the fines.)
I've been in court, for different reasons, and yeah, my anxiety was sky high, so I completely understand.
I would write down notes to look at in case you get flustered. Just be honest, prepared, and respectful and you will do fine (and I know it's easier said than done). Do let us know how it goes eh?

 

[Person trying]

Thanks you for your response, I read it before I attended the court. Sorry for the late reply.

On the day I was in an absolute state and had a panic attack when the case was reopened. I pleaded not guilty and fortunately the magistrates and legal advisor were very sympathetic to the problems I am going through at the moment. The case has to be taken back to tribunal as the prosecutor wasn't present on the day. However the legal advisor came out and spoke to me about it and recommended sending a letter to the DVLA explaining the circumstances with medical references from my GP and therapists. Hopefully this will help aid the situation and the person who has caused all this will come to justice.

Also in now in the proceeds of taking out an injunction against him, since his continuous attempts to contact me still haven't ceased. The stress and hurt he's caused me are so deep its hard to get through most days. I start EMDR therapy on Friday so I'm hoping that will help me.

Again thank you so much for responding, feeling so alone and then receiving that message really helped.

 

[Zopi]

I have to attend court Monday-week to face my ex.

Im trying sooooo hard for the court to permit me to attend via phone link, coz I just don't want to see his face and watch his manipulative mindgames.

I HATE in Australia there is no law to protect domestic violence victims from facing their abusers in court.:mad:
We have to be in the same room as our abuser, face them, look at them, be questioned and cross-examined by them. :blackeye: