caligirl03
Silver Member
My PTSD and TBI diagnosed combat vet and I have been long distance for the last few months and have been together for a few years.
He randomly asked me in the middle of the day last week whether I was inappropriately talking to anyone or if anyone was being flirty or touchy with me, and if so, I should tell him because it would suck for him to find out another way later. What?! I reassured him but was still confused about where that had come from. He said that he just had a random thought pop into his head. I then turned the tables and asked him whether there was anything I should know about, and he said not at all.
Let me just say that in all our time together I've NEVER given him any reason to doubt me, but he still seems to at random moments. We've both had other people try to hit on us at random times, but what other people do is entirely out of our control. We can only control how we react to it.
So the other night while waiting at a restaurant to pick up my takeout, the guy standing in line in front of me handed me his number on a receipt. It was random and funny to me, and I threw it away. In an attempt to be TOTALLY transparent after what my boyfriend had said, I told him about it, and he got irritated at ME! He said he thought I was dumbing what really happened down (um ok) and that if I wanted to go out with that guy, it's not like he would ever know about it (WTH?!) This hurt because I was trying to be completely honest, and he just got mad about it.
I want to be honest but I kind of feel like it's not worth it if he's just going to make me feel like I'm somehow in the wrong or is only going to be having totally false ideas that aren't founded on ANYTHING of what he THINKS is happening. Does this paranoid thinking simply go hand-in-hand with the disease? Has anyone else out there (supporter or sufferer) experienced anything similar?
PS- In his defense, he isn't always like this--just once in a while.
He randomly asked me in the middle of the day last week whether I was inappropriately talking to anyone or if anyone was being flirty or touchy with me, and if so, I should tell him because it would suck for him to find out another way later. What?! I reassured him but was still confused about where that had come from. He said that he just had a random thought pop into his head. I then turned the tables and asked him whether there was anything I should know about, and he said not at all.
Let me just say that in all our time together I've NEVER given him any reason to doubt me, but he still seems to at random moments. We've both had other people try to hit on us at random times, but what other people do is entirely out of our control. We can only control how we react to it.
So the other night while waiting at a restaurant to pick up my takeout, the guy standing in line in front of me handed me his number on a receipt. It was random and funny to me, and I threw it away. In an attempt to be TOTALLY transparent after what my boyfriend had said, I told him about it, and he got irritated at ME! He said he thought I was dumbing what really happened down (um ok) and that if I wanted to go out with that guy, it's not like he would ever know about it (WTH?!) This hurt because I was trying to be completely honest, and he just got mad about it.
I want to be honest but I kind of feel like it's not worth it if he's just going to make me feel like I'm somehow in the wrong or is only going to be having totally false ideas that aren't founded on ANYTHING of what he THINKS is happening. Does this paranoid thinking simply go hand-in-hand with the disease? Has anyone else out there (supporter or sufferer) experienced anything similar?
PS- In his defense, he isn't always like this--just once in a while.
