Hi there.
I am very new to these forums but seem to be reading a lot of answers to my questions.
So here goes .
I have been in a very fairy tale and romantic relationship for 7 years. The things we do for each other are through sheer love. Anyone looking in from outside always comment upon this, but recently things have changed from his side. He has stopped showing feelings towards me verbally only and appears to have closed off from me.
He was in Iraq for 7 years and its only upon leaving he has been fighting with these feelings. I know he suffers nightmares more so than when he was there and now when he is at work he is obsessed he can't walk away in case an incident happens. He lashes out and says he doesn't want to be in a relationship and then next were planning to move house and start again !!!
He has told me he loves me but can't get the feelings back we had and is struggling harder and harder to feel it. We are so good together and laugh so much you can imagine how hard it is for me. After having an amazing 12 days together he goes back to works and says he doesn't want a relationship.
I have given him some space as he doesn't need me been all needy and spent time looking for causes of this emotional numbness. I now understand his feeling s have changed and feel since he left Iraq he shut the door to those emotions and unfortunately think my love is in there too !!! I care so much for him and I know by ending this relationship will not be good for him as he needs a stable home, I am not sure if he knows he is suffering but he appears to be as confused as I am. I am not sure how to approach him and talk to him and try and help, I am a fighter and won't give up on him I just need a little guidance how to do this with great sensitivity.
Hope I have made sense this is not pre planned and written as I think it. obviously there is lots more but this is outline.
Many thanks for taking time to read it hope someone can help.
I am very new to these forums but seem to be reading a lot of answers to my questions.
So here goes .
I have been in a very fairy tale and romantic relationship for 7 years. The things we do for each other are through sheer love. Anyone looking in from outside always comment upon this, but recently things have changed from his side. He has stopped showing feelings towards me verbally only and appears to have closed off from me.
He was in Iraq for 7 years and its only upon leaving he has been fighting with these feelings. I know he suffers nightmares more so than when he was there and now when he is at work he is obsessed he can't walk away in case an incident happens. He lashes out and says he doesn't want to be in a relationship and then next were planning to move house and start again !!!
He has told me he loves me but can't get the feelings back we had and is struggling harder and harder to feel it. We are so good together and laugh so much you can imagine how hard it is for me. After having an amazing 12 days together he goes back to works and says he doesn't want a relationship.
I have given him some space as he doesn't need me been all needy and spent time looking for causes of this emotional numbness. I now understand his feeling s have changed and feel since he left Iraq he shut the door to those emotions and unfortunately think my love is in there too !!! I care so much for him and I know by ending this relationship will not be good for him as he needs a stable home, I am not sure if he knows he is suffering but he appears to be as confused as I am. I am not sure how to approach him and talk to him and try and help, I am a fighter and won't give up on him I just need a little guidance how to do this with great sensitivity.
Hope I have made sense this is not pre planned and written as I think it. obviously there is lots more but this is outline.
Many thanks for taking time to read it hope someone can help.
