Relationship Ptsd Episode Or Some Other Terminology?

[Purplemunchkin]

As a supporter, it has really helped me to be able to read the individual experiences throughout the forums; both from sufferers and supporters.

I think by squooshing everything into one depersonalised, generic essay you would lost the most important element of emotion and personal experience.

To me, reading a list of possible symptoms that my sufferer may experience over potential time-frames would probably feel misleading. For example, my hubby doesn't isolate, which is a very common symptom on the boards. Does that mean he doesn't have PTSD? Or that he should isolate and he's doing it wrong? Or am I doing something wrong by not encouraging him to isolate as that's what people with PTSD do?

But reading similar scenarios, not always identical, written by those affected and being able to reach out to those who understand, makes me feel less alone and gives me a much greater understanding and ability to support the man I love.

 

[Friday]

I honestly can't tell at this point if you're trolling the community, or just willfully ignorant.

 

[mary1979]

I honestly can't tell at this point if you're trolling the community, or just willfully ignorant.[/Q...

Oh my god, this was my exact thought while trying to read this but wasn't sure I could be blunt enough to be the only one to say it, thank you!

Mr Smith, you've come up with about 45 different ways to ask the same thing now hun.

My brain hurts trying to find a non bias way to respond, because I do really want to help you understand.
But you want explanations for the unexplainable, undefinable and unpredictable.

You got a room full of folks here scratching their heads and wondering what it is this article will entail.
Hurry up and write the bloody thing will you.

 

[anonymous]

Mr Smith.
We have never had any disagreements and you have never expressed those sentiments to me. I don't think my posts to you have been unreasonable but if I am causing offence I am fine staying away and shall do so. Being anonymous isn't an attack and is about me. The only reason I ever responded was to try to help.

Purple Munchkin that is a wise way to approach it. Its the way I usually approach things when I (and most) seek insight from supporters perspective. Most people are here to learn from each other.

Over and out. I wish everyone well.

 

[Ronin]

Do we have a way to ban trolls that can't even read the bloody psych textbooks, or even webpages, correctly, and then come to the community full of sufferers of the worst shit in the world to gaslight them with their bullshit?

I'm fairly sure the mighty admin Mjolnir coulda help show him the way to light he so needs, that being Out.

 

[joeylittle]

I've been thinking more about your search for aggregate info, @mr_smith_v2 - and realized that there is information out there. It's framed differently, but I think it's more useful.

Look at the stats for how relationships survive/navigate specific kinds of trauma.

Loss of a child - that's been somewhat investigated. I'd not be surprised if there were data on how many relationships maintain vs break down for vets. The impact of rape on a marriage or relationship.

Those events are facts. One could then examine behaviors that surround them. They dont necessarily speak specifically to PTSD, but I'm not sure you are that interested in what PTSD is, except for your own experience of it.

And that is 100% fine - looking for ways to understand your situation, that's what doing the work here is about.

Otherwise - I understand that you found/find it frustrating to have to search through lots of posts looking for info - but that's how it works. A little like browsing sections of a library, old-school style.

I am keenly aware that sufferers can jump on supporters, sometimes - and hard. But it's also becoming clear that you aren't using this forum in a way that benefits you, or the community. You get upset, other members get upset.

If you want to exchange information, that's what we are here for. If you want to ask questions and then become snarky when the answers aren't the ones you want, then you're in the wrong place.

I'm locking this thread because it's devolved into something unproductive. @mr_smith_v2 - if you'd like to request it be opened again, please PM me and we can discuss it. Thanks.

 

[anthony]

@mr_smith_v2, after reading some of your responses of late, to be perfectly honest, are you sure your wife didn't leave you because your attitude just sucks? I'm reading member responses to you, and they have nothing bad within them, yet your responses are accusatory, blaming and pretty much shitty. You seem to have a lot of anger which you are projecting upon others as though they're at fault for how you read things.

Based on what I have read here from you, any article you wrote about spouses with PTSD leaving, I honestly wouldn't give much credence. It quite honestly seems far more plausible from where I sit and read, that you are disgruntled that your wife left you and blame PTSD, you're very uneducated with PTSD relationship aspects, and instead of trying to write something as though some font of knowledge on the subject (which you clearly are not), why don't you do a whole lot of reading relationship based books and understand the problems of both parties in more detail.

Maybe your wife left you because you're angry, bitter, and just nasty towards her? Maybe PTSD was not involved for her, or it was an enlightening moment for her to get the courage to leave your abusive ways that filter through here?

I'm sorry, but your responses to member feedback and questions are filled with anger and hatred, which equals trolling when you respond in such a manner.

You're honestly lucky I'm no longer the admin, because I would have banned your arse from this community. @joeylittle is a damn saint thus far, and even trying to help you guide towards the reality of the situation in which you don't really understand, yet want to write some article as though authoritative.

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