• We are a multilingual website again. Read the notice about this.
  • Understand AI use at MyPTSD: all AI use is explained in our AI help page. AI use is by choice here. It exists if you want it, but does nothing unless you choose to use it.

Sufferer Ptsd For 10 Years. Childhood Fears.

Status
Not open for further replies.

SuperAnxietyGirl

Bronze Member
Hi. I have had PTSD for ten years, I am seventeen now. My father is a recovering alcoholic. There was a lot of yelling and things breaking in my early childhood, then as I got older, things became worse. I was never abused, but the emotional and fears of it all was more than enough to cause damage to me.

When I was fourteen we moved to GA where my father swore to stop drinking-again. He started back when his father died which led to my mother finally asking him to leave. He left but soon came back, my mother's brother-in-law came over to help out since my dad was in our barn with a gun. The police wouldn't come since he hadn't actually done anything, but soon after the 911 call, he came to the door and started banging on it, then kicking at the door and eventually shooting to try and scare us.

I had hidden in my mothers room with her, she stood by the door while I lay half-under her bed. He broke the window and came into the house, but my mother's brother-in-law, who was former military, brought my dad down.

While my father was in jail we finally decided to forgive him once we realized that he was actually truly sorry, but that soon went away when the need to defend himself came in. He had claimed that it was my ex-uncle's fault and all of that. After a year of trying to keep my dad out of prison, he was sentenced to only probation. Soon after that, my ex-uncle suddenly wanted to be friends with him so we put a restraining order on him. Soon after that, we realized that he had murdered my aunt who had died twelve years previous.

With all of that, we quickly and desperately found a way out of GA and moved across the country.

Even though I am far away from the "crime scenes", the PTSD causes me to never forget. Recently, thanks to this site, I realized that I may in fact be having flashbacks, which has been causing a lot of problems and stress.

Anyways, that's my story. I'm hoping this site might be good for me since I have no other ways for help.
 
SuperAnxietyGirl,

That is all just so horrible! I'm sincerely sorry you had to go through that.

I think you'll find a lot of really good information and supportive people on this site, I know I have... so welcome!

Can I just say... I sorta LOVE your forum name?

D123
(Jeez... What a boring name I have!) :laugh:
 
Welcome to the forum. My dad drank too. You never knew what was going to happen. Potential violence - physical or emotional right around the corner. And then there were just the insane things he'd say, maybe a phrase that he would repeat literally a hundred times at the dinner table. My mother and brother would trance out. I was in a constant state of terror.

I'm sorry for all that you've gone thru. You are not alone.

Welcome!
 
Hi Supergirl,

It sounds to me like you were very much abused, psychologically abused, even before the gun incident. I have to wonder what on earth your mother was thinking allowing him into your lives after THAT incident. You were only a child, and really had no say in it.

Welcome to the forum.
 
Thank you all for the welcomes

a3a2, my mom had my older, disabled brother to think about. Leaving, we'd have to put him into a hospital. And with the incident, he couldn't even live with us until after he had been in rehab for a whole, which he did well in. So we had decided it was best.
 
I think it will be good for me to meet others with same experiences as myself. I have met very few with simular experiences that weren't addicts or alcoholics.
 
Hi SuperAnxietyGirl,

Welcome to MyPTSD forum! :)

Growing up in an alcoholic and violent home can cause a huge amount of stress as you never know what is going to happen. Seeing adults with guns and not in control of themselves had to be terrifying. I am sorry that you had to experience any of this.

I hope at some point you are able to get counseling, but in the meantime, this forum has a lot of information about managing symptoms and the support here is wonderful.

Take care.

Debbie
 
Warmest welcome, very good that you are here.

You will probably find (I have in very short amount of time) that you are very alike to many of us here. That's a great feeling when it is so hard to come by in regular life with the pressure to "be normal" and participate in life.


Finally, I commend you for being able to communicate so clearly the source/origin of your struggle. I am still working on that, both in the recall and in the understanding what I am facing.
 
@a3a2- This is not meant to be combative. Just to view the scene from a different angle. I recognize that that I had/have a severe co- dependence with my mother but sometimes parents do the best with what they have. My mother should have protected me from harm the way that i would kill for my children now but she was caught in an abusive cycle as well.

@anxiety- i am not speaking for you at all.. just wanted you to know its ok if you feel protective of your mother. I blame my mother but want to protect her too at all costs. It's part of the cycle of abuse. Maybe it's just me voicing my feelings. Either way. I'm glad you are here.

All feelings are ok here.
 
Last edited by a moderator:
Can I just say... I sorta LOVE your forum name?

Thank you! I've been using this name for a while and thought it was kinda funny to use for this forum. XD

@AngrySky, wow, what a coincidence. ^What you wrote above actually is better than I could have written. She tried to hide a lot from me out of love. I've never even considered being angry and questioning her. I remember looking at houses with her when we decided we would leave, but then dad would apologize and say he would change, and he would, but slowly things would go back to normal.

Thanks to everyone else for the welcomes!
 
Status
Not open for further replies.

Donation drives

2026 Donation Goal

Goal
$1,800.00
Earned
$910.00
This donation drive ends in
0 hours, 0 minutes, 0 seconds
  50.6%

Trending content

Featured content

Back
Top Bottom