Poll Ptsd Relationships: Age Vs Experience

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

Mumma said, "Birds of a feather, flock together." That cliche holds true on many levels. I have discovered men I attract usually, have a military background. People in general who flock towards me have serious trauma issues.
Also, age is not a factor when it comes to experiencing trauma. Yet, age is a major factor when trauma occurs - a young child's mind can be hindered from developing emotionally well.
What I find a bit peculiar is those closest to me; people who I connect with (99%) all had tragic childhood experiences at the age of four. Ironic? Or, did we flock together - like a homing pigeon?

 

[Nicolette]

Hope you dont mind LLB that I added a couple of other alternatives which I believe are relevant.

 

[njray]

Great poll ?.... Ok I am bias as I was just thinking about this question of myself. Birds of a feather hear also....I choose control freaks as it takes this quality in a woman to control my ADHD symptoms...DUH!.If i manage my ADHD symptom that i can check this quality off my list! ..I have come to realize that all of the woman I have married (2) have come from families of major trauma or families with disorders like me and mine. I then stepped back and realized that even the ones I dated were of the same mold. What the F. Weird how I just accepted others situations as being normal as I look at what I have had to compare it too. IKES. I have just started to aknowledge my families issues and my own deficiencies.

As I learn more about disorders and mental health issues it has become scary. Scary in the sense that I really do not know what normal is. I have had these sometimes glimpses of normalcy I thought but as I re think them I wonder if they were. What is normal? I know being how I am now is not...well it is not mainstream hows that? I look around and wonder what mainstream has become. Do I need plastic surgery, a fancy car, a big home, a spouse, boat, 2.3 kids and a dog?. (Had them or bought them for my X spouse that does not make u normal) Crap why are 100,000 people following Kate and William or whom ever they are..Are we so weak as a people we have to care about others fantasy life before our own? I really wonder if they are normal or just luckily privileged to be married into wealth and that is the perceived normal as we are trained by others to think. I wonder whom are these others that train us to be normal.

 

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

How about this one: Normal is what works to get you through the day...

 

[The Albatross]

Normal is what works to get you through the day...

with the caveat: Not to include self harming behaviors or misuse of substances.

(yeah I had to add that for myself today)

 

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

Nicolette, as a reporter I've gotten used to editors 'cutting' and rewriting. Haha, so no problem, no anger issues - input is always welcomed for a good cause!

 

[Wobbly Joe]

A warning to all: as I isolated down, the last four friends I talked to regularly had all suffered unusual traumas. Three have since died by suicide. You can't make a support group with entirely suicidal people. And don't call a suicidal friend when you feel suicidal. Call someone who can actually help. All they did was leave me with ringing ears wondering if I had said the wrong things. My world is me and one friend and lunch with my parents on Friday. Beyond that, I rarely leave this room.

 

[jo may]

Well I said older cos all my boyfriends have been older than me by at least 10 yrs. Yet my husband is younger than me by 3 yrs and was abused by his father.