maryiscontrary
Silver Member
Hey amigos! I wanted to once again thank you for all of your love and wisdom. I am working my butt off healing, and I wanted to share some interesting insights I have gained during this process.
1. I now like myself and I protect my assets. Like a lot of people here, I hated myself, and this is nothing but a projection of my FOOs opinions of themselves pasted onto me.
2. Reality appears to be stranger than any sort of fiction. There are a LOT of messed up people who will bring you down because they hate themselves and they are jealous of your healing. I mean people who are better looking, richer, more worldly successful...if they see this inner peace and self respect, many will got batshit nuts trying to bring you down. BEWARE! Remember, there is no shortage of people who are Epic Bags of Dicks (EBoDs).
3. Adhering strictly to your boundaries WILL give you a sense of person hood and cohesion. You will feel it in a couple months.
4. Practicing nonviolent communication techniques will increase the odds you will be heard and your needs will be met.
5. As you become more cohesive, and develop good self respect, EBoDs will get more aggressive and bizarre in behavior. It is like nature's way of helping you practice verbal and emotional self defense. Guys, it will get so egregious that it will seem like you are being attacked by the Zombie Apocalypse. It will also get humorous, because they will act so stupid when you are at your most humane and gracious state. Really important to maintain focus.
6. You may realize that less is more. Much of my self worth before was based on achievement and worldly stuff. Much of this is total bullshit, and the high you get runs out very quickly. Here is another example. I had a huge "fabulous" apartment that I got for a very low price. However, because I hate junk and I am a minimalist, it looked screwed up because it was so empty. I moved to a smaller, funky adobe vintage old school hacienda style apartment (even cheaper!), painted it 10 colors, and it is a dream bohemian place. For me, less is more. Less Bullshit.
7. I do not have TV, gadgets, gaming systems, etc. Again, I find excessive use really messes my brain and functioning up. Less stimulation, more peace. Less is more.
Do you guys have any? Would you like to share? At 42 going on 17, I really like myself for the first time.
1. I now like myself and I protect my assets. Like a lot of people here, I hated myself, and this is nothing but a projection of my FOOs opinions of themselves pasted onto me.
2. Reality appears to be stranger than any sort of fiction. There are a LOT of messed up people who will bring you down because they hate themselves and they are jealous of your healing. I mean people who are better looking, richer, more worldly successful...if they see this inner peace and self respect, many will got batshit nuts trying to bring you down. BEWARE! Remember, there is no shortage of people who are Epic Bags of Dicks (EBoDs).
3. Adhering strictly to your boundaries WILL give you a sense of person hood and cohesion. You will feel it in a couple months.
4. Practicing nonviolent communication techniques will increase the odds you will be heard and your needs will be met.
5. As you become more cohesive, and develop good self respect, EBoDs will get more aggressive and bizarre in behavior. It is like nature's way of helping you practice verbal and emotional self defense. Guys, it will get so egregious that it will seem like you are being attacked by the Zombie Apocalypse. It will also get humorous, because they will act so stupid when you are at your most humane and gracious state. Really important to maintain focus.
6. You may realize that less is more. Much of my self worth before was based on achievement and worldly stuff. Much of this is total bullshit, and the high you get runs out very quickly. Here is another example. I had a huge "fabulous" apartment that I got for a very low price. However, because I hate junk and I am a minimalist, it looked screwed up because it was so empty. I moved to a smaller, funky adobe vintage old school hacienda style apartment (even cheaper!), painted it 10 colors, and it is a dream bohemian place. For me, less is more. Less Bullshit.
7. I do not have TV, gadgets, gaming systems, etc. Again, I find excessive use really messes my brain and functioning up. Less stimulation, more peace. Less is more.
Do you guys have any? Would you like to share? At 42 going on 17, I really like myself for the first time.
