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Yes, this IS an actual "Dummies" book! I checked it out of the library a few weeks ago on a whim and I'm SO happy I did! I am such a fan of "Dummies" books in general, and I think this one has a lot of straightforward advice. That is, it really does spell out the basics, and I think that since many of us never received a strong foundation for forming or maintaining relationships, that it is quite helpful!
Other relationship books that I've read aren't so "basic" I guess you could say. I mean I've read a number of other relationship books and they tend to be along the lines of "how to make your relationship better" or "how to tell if he's really into you" and things like that. This book sort of spells it all out from the ground up!
It was only on the second page of text that I was able to have a "light bulb" moment where I was able to say "now THAT is a huge part of my problem!" The topic was intimacy and how it is necessary to form intimacy with a partner by sharing things with them and them alone. I tend to share everything with everyone (friends, family, partners....but no, not strangers on the street, LOL, I don't go that far). Now I know part of why guys get so into me when I'm sort of "meh" about them....that is, it appears that I'm confiding in them because I can be so open, but the truth is that I share the same stuff with others, too, so its not "intimate" stuff in my mind. (And by intimate I mean personal things about my life, not sexual things.)
The book is great for spelling out relationship must haves, good to haves, and not necessary to haves as well. It tells you when to run the other direction, too! It talks about relationship myths and compatibility myths as well. (Good for me, as I have some skewed relationship beliefs!)
I'm only up to chapter 6 right now, but this book has been SO helpful! I did skip the chapter on finding someone though as I'm getting to know a certain someone right now. I'm thinking of buying a copy for myself so I can read it over and over again when the need arises for some brushing up.
The book was written in 2002 and as such there are a few things to ignore, like when they mention AOL keywords and such. My book was reprinted in 2009, but unfortunately it doesn't seem like it was updated. But, overall, still a great book!
I thought I would share as I know others have relationship issues, and if you weren't given a strong foundation for forming healthy relationships, then I think this book could help you, too!
Next up, "Dating for Dummies!" LOL
Other relationship books that I've read aren't so "basic" I guess you could say. I mean I've read a number of other relationship books and they tend to be along the lines of "how to make your relationship better" or "how to tell if he's really into you" and things like that. This book sort of spells it all out from the ground up!
It was only on the second page of text that I was able to have a "light bulb" moment where I was able to say "now THAT is a huge part of my problem!" The topic was intimacy and how it is necessary to form intimacy with a partner by sharing things with them and them alone. I tend to share everything with everyone (friends, family, partners....but no, not strangers on the street, LOL, I don't go that far). Now I know part of why guys get so into me when I'm sort of "meh" about them....that is, it appears that I'm confiding in them because I can be so open, but the truth is that I share the same stuff with others, too, so its not "intimate" stuff in my mind. (And by intimate I mean personal things about my life, not sexual things.)
The book is great for spelling out relationship must haves, good to haves, and not necessary to haves as well. It tells you when to run the other direction, too! It talks about relationship myths and compatibility myths as well. (Good for me, as I have some skewed relationship beliefs!)
I'm only up to chapter 6 right now, but this book has been SO helpful! I did skip the chapter on finding someone though as I'm getting to know a certain someone right now. I'm thinking of buying a copy for myself so I can read it over and over again when the need arises for some brushing up.
The book was written in 2002 and as such there are a few things to ignore, like when they mention AOL keywords and such. My book was reprinted in 2009, but unfortunately it doesn't seem like it was updated. But, overall, still a great book!
I thought I would share as I know others have relationship issues, and if you weren't given a strong foundation for forming healthy relationships, then I think this book could help you, too!
Next up, "Dating for Dummies!" LOL
