Relocation Or Running Away?

[Kas_Can_Fly]

@Kas_Can_Fly
About your therapy: why do you have limited sessions? Do people in the UK get limited care if they have a chronic illness like diabetes or high blood pressure or blood clots?

No, but it's standard for mental health (backwards aint it?!) - even private healthcare won't usually do more than a certain amount without heavy extra fees. Then again the crisis team didn't think it was much of a priority to prevent me feeling suicidal, but they did see it as a priority not to hospitalise me because of budget cuts. It's usual for NHS services to be limited to 8-12 sessions, I'm lucky to have been granted 48 (pretty much a year) with a more specialised therapist. When I move my therapist hopes I will be given another 48 sessions under that local team.

I'm trying to be open but I am a bit puzzled why my therapist is so anti-me-moving...that maybe I was "missing" something.

I think probably the standard reasons: Being isolated in a new area, being away from safeguards like friends and family, denial about problems, trying to reinvent yourself (not bad necessarily, but things can come crashing down quickly if you're not realistic) - think more dissociative fugue followed by potential for a mental health crisis, getting a new support network - therapist/psychiatrist/social worker, getting settled - job if you're employed, finding more problems when you move and feeling the need to relocate again and of course, loosing a customer (could be because he's worried about you as much as anything else). Have you told him your reasons and asked recently?

Either way, I think if you want to move, move and enjoy the change of pace and scenery, enjoy the positives and the good things, just don't expect it to be a fix all and maybe ask your shrink if s/he has a recommendation for a therapist in the area you'll be going to. Again, good luck!

 

[xena21]

I think it's a great idea! I was traumatized where I lived and moving away was the best thing for me. I was dependent on my Mom for safety but I joined the military to move on and find my own safety outside that family shelter. The town and area safety net is understandable, but know that you have to depend on yourself when you get out there.