Responses To Your Therapist That You Will Probably Never Say

[BloomInWinter]

T. - When are you going to stop beating yourself up!?

Me. - Today! I'm cured!

 

[MouseWedger]

Recently, my T and I were discussing my in-laws, how they trigger me with their insanity and what not, how they do things that "normal" people would't do. (Like buy a power washer for the house when you cant pay for your mortgage, then never use the washer.) She knows I need for things to make sense based off my history, and that I get triggered when they don't.

Me: I just don't GET it!!
T: I think you're trying to make sense out of an illogical situation here.
Me: Yeah, so? Its what I do. You tell people why they do what they do. WHY DO THEY DO THIS?!
T: I really don't know.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Another thing I should ask but don't -- Are you afraid of me?

I did ask my T if I scared him, he said no. I didn't believe him and I asked him again 6 months later. He said no again.

 

[p-no]

And also I wanted to give her a hug after the session... LOL. I mean what would she say if I just asked her that???

Mine often asks me, and recently I have (re-)started asking her. We often hug. We talk about her as well. Ask her, if you feel like it, Nadia. Seriously.Those hugs are special to me, because I get from her what I did not get once from my mother. It gives me an idea of love, and it doesn't hurt. It heals. :hug:

 

[samson]

When he asks: "Are you ok?"

NO. Why would I be here spending money and using my day off if I was OK? Hahaha

He also is the king of the blank stare. He will just sit there waiting for me to be emotional or say things. I have said to him during those times - "You say stuff now." He laughs and obliges me.

GREAT THREAD!

 

[p-no]

M: What I really want to say is if we are going to go one trigger at a time we might be here well into my 90's

Said something like: "I started therapy at age 19! If I bring up each and every trauma (and I mean trauma) we won't be done till I'm 342 and a half!" (Really did say this various times, and meant it, too.)

 

[Red Feather]

Mine often asks me, and recently I have (re-)started asking her. We often hug. We talk about her as well.

I wish I had your T... Errrh. I don't feel like hugging my new T.

If I ever see my old T I might say it. The last time I saw her it was at my university and we accidentally crossed paths. I was so surprised all I could do was open my eyes really wide and say "Hallo!". And she was also awkward, made me realize that T's also might feel awkward and shy. :eek:

Is it a german thing p-no? The handshake is really awkward for me too. In LA people didn't shake hands so often!

 

[p-no]

I wish I had your T... Errrh. I don't feel like hugging my new T.

Give yourself some time, and her (?), too. You don't know her well yet. I have known mine for almost a decade now! We've worked together for more than three years. While I was not living here, we exchanged two or three e-mails, not as friends but as then former therapist and me asking for her advice and help from where I lived then.

It's not like we started hugging after two weeks of sessions. I need a lot of trust for that. Also, don't let yourself get fooled into thinking that this hugging has anything to do with crossing boundaries or being friends. It does not. She's the t, I'm the patient (or client, as is PC, but I don't like that term).

You know, in her case and mine, as in every single relationship, it's all about those who are in the relationship want. In our case, we both hug sometimes, even often. I sometimes don't. She sometimes doesn't hug me or ask either. Sometimes while hugging I ask her to let go because it's enough and e.g. I'd start crying but I have to walk home and don't want others to see me cry. Tons of shades of grey. :hug:

I would definitely not have hugged every single one of my ts. There was one, my first one, and I love and appreciate her until this day. She was excellent. I was lucky, she put me on the right path, so to speak. But I would have never hugged her despite my appreciation and gratefulness etc. Don't know why, but it's okay, too.

Is it a german thing p-no? The handshake is really awkward for me too. In LA people didn't shake hands so often!

Shaking hands is normal for official relationships, yes. I used to not like it myself. Then I came across the history of shaking hands and it said that it used to be more of a showing your hand(s) to the other person so they can see you have no weapon in it to attack them. So, it used to be an offer of peace. I like that and this has helped me not feel awkward when shaking hands.

As to "often", I don't know. You shake hands when you meet and talk in an official setting.

 

[Deleted member 10686]

T: What can you do that is healthy to help yourself cope?
me: let me guess, the answer is exercise. obviously I have heard this one a million times before.

T: Sometimes it helps survivors to let some of their anger out by yelling at an empty chair.
me: If you want me to let my anger out, you must not value your office and belongings...and them being not broken.

 

[Red Feather]

Me: I felt ashamed when I picked up the application.
T: Why?

Me (what I wouldn't say): Because I HATE YOU!:cry:

 

[C.J]

T. - "You have come a long way from your childhood"

Me - Um....you DO realize this office is in a hospital, right?

I don't know why,but this quote made me laugh sooo hard. Thanks for the laugh.

 

[BloomInWinter]

T. - You need to change how you talk to yourself.

Me. - I'm my own best friend now!