Scared i cant do what i want

[Deleted member 45408]

I'm scared I'm going to get in trouble for doing what I want..i was never allowed to do anything I enjoyed as a kid ..if I enjoyed it..i would get in trouble...now that I'm an adult I feel the same...but ur allowed to as an adult...but I'm afraid what ever I do ..someone will get adult guardianship over me....weather its getting skinny like 10 to 15 pounds underweight...or drinking at the bar..I feel they will say because of these things I could b in danger to myself and get guardianship of me and I will get declared incompetent..even though I'm a married woman with kids..how do I know if this is true and not b so scared?

 

[Deleted member 541]

People here have explained to you over and over again, that unless you are severely anorexic to the point of almost dying, that no one can do this to you. And having an occasional drink isn’t going to make someone try to gain guardianship either.

I’m not sure WHY you keep thinking this, or why you keep posting about the same issue?!?!?!?!?!

 

[Deleted member 45408]

afraid somehow someone can control me again...even if they have to go to court

 

[Deleted member 45408]

afraid I cant look how I want.....do what I want or ill get in trouble ..and they will get guardianship and say being skinny or drinking is dangerous and they will win me

 

[Friday]

...how do I know if this is true and not b so scared?

By actually doing it.

If your kid is scared to go down the slide at the park? They’re going to be scared, until they ride it... and then they’ll possibly still be scared the next few hundred times. And then it’s easy. Because they’ve done it. A lot. They’ve fallen, busted their lip, been scared some more, done it some more, and voila...not even another bad fall makes the slide scary, they just tripped, is all. Next time, don’t trip. To the slide! That’s just how learning works.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

but I don't know when..and what time they would choose to do it..if someone ever tried

 

[mumstheword]

but I don't know when..and what time they would choose to do it..if someone ever tried

Just because you're thinking it and feeling that way, doesn't make it true. Learn to doubt your perception and ask yourself for more evidence before you buy into this fear. Fear is useful when it's about something real, it keeps us safe, but to much unchecked belief in thought and feelings without evidence to support them ...I can be delusion and can lead to serious mental health problems. I'd advise therapy to get some objective perspective.
Have you heard that lyric?
"Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds".

 

[Deleted member 45408]

so no one can take guardianship of me unless I cant take care of myself? and if that even would happen my husband would take it and no one could take it from him? they don't take guardianship of someone if they think ur too skinny? or if they think drinking is unhealthy?

 

[mumstheword]

You bet. I was anorexic and my guy was very controlling and would have loved to have that over me, but they don't give guardianship for anorexia, they just don't, not for alcoholics either (not saying you are one), only in very special circumstances, mainly for elderly people who have dementia or young mentally disabled adults and only if they are very in danger of exploitation and abuse and the family and medical team can.prove it and support the application. It's very hard to get guardianship.

 

[anonymous]

I'm scared I'm going to get in trouble for doing what I want..i was never allowed to do anything I enjoy...

Seriously, I was a good 40 lbs. underweight and major PTSD symptoms after prolonged trauma and actually asked a lawyer to declare me incompetent because I knew I was unable to make major decisions at the time. He refused and I was forced to sign papers that I didn’t want to sign. Trust me, no one will declare you incompetent even if you are!

 

[Supervixn]

I think a councilor can help you with this fear. It's like a repetitive cycle in your mind that you need professional assistance to break. I understand your fear. I don't blame you. But you HAVE to KNOW it's not legitimate. Believe me. This fear of yours is not rational and you're being tortured by it.

I've had irrational fears myself. It's going to be okay but you have really got to seek some therapeutic help to deal with it. You know how I know? Because when we give you the rational truth your sickness won't accept it. I caution you not to pick and choose what to believe when it comes to what is the proven truth. Pick the truth. Talk yourself out of the lie by focusing on the rational truth.

You're okay, girl! You got this. YOU got this! You're the only one who can change your own mind but you need professional guidance to do so. Please consider it. This harping fear is nothing but poison in your life. Grab a hold of yourself and get some help, we are here to support you. Don't let the fear win. YOU are in control don't believe the lie that you aren't... because its nothing more than a lie. The only thing out of control and that needs to be taken from you is this irrational fear of something that will NOT happen.

You will start to feel more powerful and feel more peaceful when you conquer this. It's absolutely in your power to do so. Don't give into this fear anymore. Get help :) we all need it sometimes and there's nothing wrong with it.

Dont forget to update us on your progress and lean on us for encouragement and support. We all know you are capable of overcoming this. You have to know it too.

Bless you and keep fighting the good fight. God is on your side and so are we.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

You bet. I was anorexic and my guy was very controlling and would have loved to have that over me,...

what about the movie for the love of nancy? they took her for guardianship for anorexia...she did give up at the end though..they could have found her competent..please google nancy walsh anorexia and tell me how that happened..might ease my mind