Scared To Post.

[Sandstone]

It's not hurting someone that is my concern: if that happened unintentionally then I'd apologise and explain, but the risk of doing actual damage. People are here because they are vulnerable and in need, and if they take poor advice from they could be made worse.

But that is somewhat different from the issue Go Hungry raised - the OP was about being judged as an individual because of ones posts. That worries me far less - from my posts it's apparent that I'm a bit of a wreck,and I know my thought pattern aren't typical, so I haven't much left to hide.

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

I honestly don't see how u will damage ppl or give wrong advice! Ppl choose to takes ones advice it's not forced upon them as they also choose to be on here. If you choose not to put n e advice up then that's up to u, no one is gonna force u. I think u lack a bit of self confidence which is natural, if u don't then I'm sorry for making that judgement . Take care

 

[Spiderallis]

Sometimes it's harder to press that 'post' button. For me it's less about being judged, I'm fighting outdated fears of opportunistic predators smelling an easy target. It's more of a problem when I'm off balance and probably need the help and support around here the most. I get scared and go quiet instead of reaching out.

 

[Notsowild]

I rarely respond to posts. Partly because I'm scared to give the wrong advice. And because my mind is usually boggled and confused.

When I post threads I don't respond much neither. I usually regret posting most times. I find they don't make much sense and sometimes are redundant.

 

[Sandstone]

So thanks to everyone who does post - if every member here was like those of us who are scared , it would be a very quiet place

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

I sometimes post when I stressed or angry and emotional, but personally feel a lot better afterwards when ppl have supported me. As I said no one is here to judge anyone coz everyone in same boat and understand each other, dnt b afraid to post u may find it will help

 

[rainy_daze]

I'm all for... let it flow and deal with the aftermath. PTSD can't be contained and reasoned with, so when it comes to PTSD... I just settle to raw honesty and expression

I took this advice, and it's better. I would spend so much time editing my posts, and for what reason? As long as people can read it, I say to everyone, go for it. Post how you feel. There can't be much left to lose. [And people might respect you for your honesty, which means you can keep being yourself, it is important to be yourself and not fear the judgement of others]

I'm still grateful for this thread @Go Hungry. No shunning.

I know in the past I've probably posted things that come across as big rants, but that is how I've learned. Looking back I can see progress. If I hadn't ever posted, I wouldn't have as much to look back on and reflect on my journey. I was in denial of a lot of things, and thankfully many people have been patient with me here. It is a community (and I'm happy to be part of it). Plus, if someone doesn't like me, it's their loss really :laugh:.

@Notsowild I get confused a lot too, it happens. I find if I go back and read a confusing thread or post when I feel better, it makes more sense. I assume it's dissociation for me, IMHO. The more I post, the less I regret it too. Sort of like exposure therapy, perhaps?