Relationship Screw You Combat Ptsd!!!

[Foreva Faithful]

I try to be so positive in life, but today I just want to scream Screw YOU Combat PTSD!!! I hate when he seems distant or wanting to hang out with friends but when it comes to me there is every excuse in the book! He tells me to not take things personally and he is not pushing me away or intentional not wanting to be around me. Screw you combat PTSD!

I know it's the deamons of combat PTSD making him feel this way, its not him. My own husband truly hated and despised me for over a year and a half. It took him hitting below rock bottom before coming to terms with combat PTSD. The husband I once knew has snapped back. But days like this where I feel pushed away scare me that he will go back to not wanting me around again. Screw you Combat PTSD!

It was a blessing in disguise that he hit below rock bottom because that is what it took for him to realize he had not been himself. Since then he is getting help, involved in support groups and embracing that he is battling combat PTSD. I want to support him, but I don't want to smother him. He is my turtle and I can not rush him. I have to constantly remind myself that he is my turtle. Screw you combat PTSD!

Is it normal for someone to hate you so long, snap out of it, then have off days? Once again, screaming screw you PTSD!!

I have to remind myself of the Jason Mraz lyrics from I Won't Give Up. I try so hard not to take it personal, I just worry he will go back to hating me, it has been such a weight lifted for him to be more himself after a year and a half.

 

[Nicolette]

I hear you! It can get better though, I hope it does for you.

 

[fight4him]

OMGoodness, My husband was mad and hateful towards me for 6 years before he hit rock bottom. The kids and I couldn't do anything right and he had disconnected from all his friends so we had the pleasure as his family to walk on eggshells all the time. My husband has made a 360 degree turn around but still has days that he has to remind himself that we are not the enemy. I just tell him I love him and when he is ready to put SGT butthead away and be my husband again, I will be there with open arms. That is usually all it takes to get him to snap out of his bad mood but every now and then there is the deep dark evil twin that raises up and I just have to hold on and let him run his course. Thankfully it is very seldom these days that we see that side of him. So, yes, it does get better, You just need to hang on :)

 

[discarded]

SCREW COMBAT PTSD!!!!!! and every other kind there is out there. I can't deal with it anymore. I have given up and moving on. I wish my husband well but it will have to be on his own now. I reached my breaking point, I gave all I had to give until I reached rock bottom. He didn't want my help and I can no longer offer it.

Good luck to all the supporters out there, it is a tough life to live. Take care of yourselves, make yourself number 1 priority, set your limits and accept that you can't save those who don't want to be saved.

 

[Foreva Faithful]

Fight4him thank you so much for your inspiration! I truly thought there was no going back after he had not lived at home for a year and a half. It is such a cliche, but so true for combat PTSD sufferers that they do have to hit rock bottom on their own before any change occurs! If you ever need some inspiration search YouTube for wives of combat PTSD, some very inspirational videos!

Discarded I am sorry to hear that you have hit rock bottom. That is good that you feel peace of mind and heart to move on. Even though I was 'ready' to sign papers my heart was not in the same place. I wish you peace in this new chapter of your life. It truly will have to be your husband to make that choice to change.

 

[RetiredAFWife11]

AMEN!!!! And screw you COMBAT PTSD!!! Your post gives me hope that my Sgt will soon hit his "AHA" moment. We have been married for a year and a half and together for almost 4 years. These last few months have been horrid. I'm constantly worried he is going to just leave me without a care in the world and move on. He holds things against me that do not pertain to him and makes me feel so bad about myself. I try to hold out hope that he will get the help he needs. I'm not going anywhere and if it takes many more years, then I'll be here. I don't take my vows lightly and I hope he didn't either!

I'm so happy for those of you that said that your Combat PTSD sufferer is making the change back to a caring individual. and I also Thank God for all of you. Without this resource, I'm sure I would be panicked more than I am!!

 

[myvetswife]

My husband had to hit below rock bottom but he done it. He still has days. But it got a lot better!