Sending Christmas Card Inappropriate?

[Deleted member 5760]

Im very sorry if this comment offends anyone but there is this lil voice in my head going 'say it jen, say it'....

If I am still with my T NEXT christmas to send a card - then she's obviously not very good. I have always thought the BEST gift I could ever give my T would be the day I don't need her anymore. That's what i want to give her. Not some card ---- A goodbye.

A success story.

'She walked into my office on such and such a date .... and she's not here anymore..... she doesn't need me anymore.... I did it... that's my job.... to get her to a point where she doesn't NEED me anymore'

If I'm still sending her christmas cards in 3 years - I don't know if she would like that very much as I obviously am not getting anywhere. That's what I want to give me T. A great big goodbye! Because she's done her job and I don't need her anymore - I want to be a success story. I think that would give her a whole lot of satisfaction.

 

[Iam]

Jen, You are so right on about that. Any good T would be happy when their client doesn't need them anymore. What could be better than knowing you've completed a job well done.

In the meantime though, I do want to wish them a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Hopefully, with hard work on both our parts, they will no longer be part of my life by this time next year!

 

[lonetree]

love the hat anni, oh said that before

anyhoo. The idea of giving a gift is to show some intimate feeling of gratitude or kinship. A T could very well be intuited to both or neither. My personal take on it is that a T is your doctor and keep it professional. No gift! Yet they are the most personal people in your life aside from your SO. Gift!
Now it is YOU!
Do you want to say thank you, Merry Christmas, happy Hanuka, Love ya babe, or do you keep it professional.

 

[Tinyflame]

Maybe be yourself, what's true to you.

Iam, your thread title says "..'inappropriate' ". Maybe that's your worry or fear (a negative), as opposed to just taking a risk that giving it is something good ("Merry Christmas!/ Thank you!")
I don't know about you but I could second-guess myself on anything.

Seems to me no one would or should be upset to hear 'Thank you'. If you want to give it now do so, next year is never a 'given' irregardless of progress or not, all we've got is 'now'. I'm sure they don't expect it, either.

 

[Iam]

I always send one to mine, addressed to Dr. X and family, every year-with home-made nutbread. I hadn't a clue gifts were illegal so hopefully he ate the evidence.

You are so funny Anni, thanks for the laugh! :D

 

[Jawn]

Just do it Iam. :)

Jawn

 

[Iam]

Haha....Jawn....you're always telling me that! Oooh....did I just make an always/never statement? My T would rap my knuckles for that!

 

[anni]

Hee- I'm sorry, but look at Jawn's user Icon while you're reading his comment at the same time. Fall-down funny!!

SJ, when my T no longer is needed, he's getting a Christmas card AND a bicycle, AND a puppy. AND a parade, so good point, really! I'll be annoyingly, nauseatingly grateful and since I'll no longer be bound by legalities I hope he can still ride a bicycle.

 

[externalsmile]

Now this may be really inappropriate.....but anni....I think I am falling in love with you. Keep being funny like that and I will start sending you Christmas cards.

 

[Deleted member 5760]

Anni - a bicycle will be a small price to pay since by then you will have put his kids through college.... *runs* mwah!

 

[anni]

Hahahahahahaha! I think I already HAVE, and he's working on the grandchildren-he's kind of OLD, now! OK- just gave you an opening to point out I have a grandson too.... :) Thought I'd better lob that one out there and save you some running because it's just too early in the morning for all that, just cappacino. :)

 

[Deleted member 5760]

Oh Anni you crack me up..... He probably just sits there and nods and then hands you a bill...... how thoroughly unethical.... :P