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Leia
Hi, I was recommended this forum from a friend. This happened last week.
I’ve been recently experiencing pain during sex. I was with my partner and when she inserted her fingers in me I felt intense pain. However, being a people pleaser I didn’t say anything. I didn’t want to upset her by vocalization I’m in pain. Which is another can of worms. it wasn’t until she pulled out and saw blood that I finally explained the pain. This led to an argument about trust. But we agreed that I needed to see a doctor. I know this is all anxiety that’s inducing the pain. I recently came out and this is my first girlfriend.
Regardless, I did what we agreed upon and went to urgent care for a pelvic exam. I should’ve waited for an appointment with my doctor or at the very least brought my girlfriend. I just wanted to get it over with. Everything about the exam was off. She started by rinsing her hands in the sink, saying she has an allergy to the latex gloves, and they were out of latex free. She asked me if it was okay if she could do the exam without gloves, and I said okay but I couldn’t stop shaking. She then proceeded to place a hand on my stomach and insert her fingers. She asked if I experienced any pain. It felt like this intense deep pain which was different from the burning pain I experienced with my girlfriend which I explained to her. She then asked me if it was okay if she moved her fingers. I thought she meant readjusting. But she then started to do thrusting movements inside of me. I didn’t know what to do so I just laid there. She asked me if there was the burning pain now. When I said yes I thought she’ll remove her fingers but she continued. She apologized for it hurting and explained the exam was almost done. The whole time I was looking at the ceiling and not at her so I don’t know if she was inappropriately touching herself or doing anything that would specify this actually being assault. It felt like it took forever for it to end though I could be extending time because I was in pain. She finally stopped and there was blood again. She said she was going to order me transvaginal ultrasound, went to wash her hands, then told me it was okay to get dressed before leaving out the room.
When she finally left I started crying. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Is this appropriate?
I’ve been recently experiencing pain during sex. I was with my partner and when she inserted her fingers in me I felt intense pain. However, being a people pleaser I didn’t say anything. I didn’t want to upset her by vocalization I’m in pain. Which is another can of worms. it wasn’t until she pulled out and saw blood that I finally explained the pain. This led to an argument about trust. But we agreed that I needed to see a doctor. I know this is all anxiety that’s inducing the pain. I recently came out and this is my first girlfriend.
Regardless, I did what we agreed upon and went to urgent care for a pelvic exam. I should’ve waited for an appointment with my doctor or at the very least brought my girlfriend. I just wanted to get it over with. Everything about the exam was off. She started by rinsing her hands in the sink, saying she has an allergy to the latex gloves, and they were out of latex free. She asked me if it was okay if she could do the exam without gloves, and I said okay but I couldn’t stop shaking. She then proceeded to place a hand on my stomach and insert her fingers. She asked if I experienced any pain. It felt like this intense deep pain which was different from the burning pain I experienced with my girlfriend which I explained to her. She then asked me if it was okay if she moved her fingers. I thought she meant readjusting. But she then started to do thrusting movements inside of me. I didn’t know what to do so I just laid there. She asked me if there was the burning pain now. When I said yes I thought she’ll remove her fingers but she continued. She apologized for it hurting and explained the exam was almost done. The whole time I was looking at the ceiling and not at her so I don’t know if she was inappropriately touching herself or doing anything that would specify this actually being assault. It felt like it took forever for it to end though I could be extending time because I was in pain. She finally stopped and there was blood again. She said she was going to order me transvaginal ultrasound, went to wash her hands, then told me it was okay to get dressed before leaving out the room.
When she finally left I started crying. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Is this appropriate?