Everything that comes out of my husbands mouth lately has been cruel. He twists my words.
Example: Me~Hey I need you to get eggs from the...
Him~I know, all you do is nag.
<3 days later and 3 store runs later he sill hasn't gotten the eggs>
<This morning he was going to get the eggs before work>
Me~Can you please hurry, if you don't go now you are going to be late for work
Him~That's right I am not allowed to look at the computer. I am I allowed to put on my socks since you tell me what I am allowed to do around here.
Me~How did you get that, from me asking you to hurry? I need those eggs and I don't want you to be late for work.
Him~Do you do anything else but yell? (note: I was far from yelling.100% Normal tone) I go to work all day and you just sit around thinking up new ways to make my life miserable. You woke up yelling at me about the eggs before we were even out of bed. (not true, I never fell asleep and didn't mention the eggs until we were both in the living room) I work 2 stressful jobs but the real stress is having to come home to you.
<he then proceeds to kick HIS deodorant which had fallen to the floor>
Him~Don't you know how to use a trash can, I have to kick your trash out of the way.
<When he starts looking for his deodorant>
Him~ where the hell is my deodorant, it was on my desk
Me~ You kicked it!
Him~That's right, don't do anything useful around here like help me find my deodorant. You just want me to be late.
Me~ I asked you to hurry
Him~That's just because you want money. That's all I am good for, bringing you home money. Yes mam, I'll jump and run, what else do you want because I'll do it right way mam. <mock salute>
Me~ Please don't do this right now, I had something upsetting happen and I don't need this too. <e-mail from my abusers family>
Him~Something happened in the living room? You were in the living room all night. What came in the living room.
Me~I need you to be kind if I am going to tell you
Him~So are you saying you don't care that my back hurts? <statements like this throw me way off>
So I don't have a car no I.D., I am totally dependent on him to get things from the store, Dr.s appointments and other errand type stuff.
I can't leave when he treats my like this, but I need some kind of action I can take when he is doing this. I just can't stand by and let him keep talking this way to me.
He went to work without getting me the eggs (I haven't eaten in 3 days because there IS nothing to eat that doesn't require eggs (i.e. cornbread mix)
The other day when I had a severe headache when he went to go get me pain pills and told me he was bringing them right back, he went to the DMV and the car inspection place first.
I have to find a way where I stop allowing him to treat me this way. What action are available for me to take when he treats me this way. If I go outside, since I have no where to go, he thinks it is funny. so that is completely out.
Example: Me~Hey I need you to get eggs from the...
Him~I know, all you do is nag.
<3 days later and 3 store runs later he sill hasn't gotten the eggs>
<This morning he was going to get the eggs before work>
Me~Can you please hurry, if you don't go now you are going to be late for work
Him~That's right I am not allowed to look at the computer. I am I allowed to put on my socks since you tell me what I am allowed to do around here.
Me~How did you get that, from me asking you to hurry? I need those eggs and I don't want you to be late for work.
Him~Do you do anything else but yell? (note: I was far from yelling.100% Normal tone) I go to work all day and you just sit around thinking up new ways to make my life miserable. You woke up yelling at me about the eggs before we were even out of bed. (not true, I never fell asleep and didn't mention the eggs until we were both in the living room) I work 2 stressful jobs but the real stress is having to come home to you.
<he then proceeds to kick HIS deodorant which had fallen to the floor>
Him~Don't you know how to use a trash can, I have to kick your trash out of the way.
<When he starts looking for his deodorant>
Him~ where the hell is my deodorant, it was on my desk
Me~ You kicked it!
Him~That's right, don't do anything useful around here like help me find my deodorant. You just want me to be late.
Me~ I asked you to hurry
Him~That's just because you want money. That's all I am good for, bringing you home money. Yes mam, I'll jump and run, what else do you want because I'll do it right way mam. <mock salute>
Me~ Please don't do this right now, I had something upsetting happen and I don't need this too. <e-mail from my abusers family>
Him~Something happened in the living room? You were in the living room all night. What came in the living room.
Me~I need you to be kind if I am going to tell you
Him~So are you saying you don't care that my back hurts? <statements like this throw me way off>
So I don't have a car no I.D., I am totally dependent on him to get things from the store, Dr.s appointments and other errand type stuff.
I can't leave when he treats my like this, but I need some kind of action I can take when he is doing this. I just can't stand by and let him keep talking this way to me.
He went to work without getting me the eggs (I haven't eaten in 3 days because there IS nothing to eat that doesn't require eggs (i.e. cornbread mix)
The other day when I had a severe headache when he went to go get me pain pills and told me he was bringing them right back, he went to the DMV and the car inspection place first.
I have to find a way where I stop allowing him to treat me this way. What action are available for me to take when he treats me this way. If I go outside, since I have no where to go, he thinks it is funny. so that is completely out.
