Sex in marriage, who's on top, who gets to say no about what?

[digger]

read the warning

Your trigger warning was edited out of your post as we don't use trigger warnings here - you can read more about this in the Community Constitution
Your preferences however for how you'd like people to respond to the discussion remain in the first paragraph.

I think it would be helpful if you could clarify though what it is you are wanting people to comment on/what you are asking with your post as this is not clear.

 

[Nessa7]

I think that you're so primed to feel victimized by people not agreeing with your sense of humor that you aren't going to get any good advice out of this. In your first post, the longest paragraph is about gay men. Your second longest paragraph is defending the paragraph about gay men. There is way more about your gender identity in there than there is about having sex with your wife. Asking people to ignore half of what you say is a confusing way to communicate.

 

[anonymous]

I think you may have repressed homosexual desires given how you react so strongly to homosexual sex. I think it would be a good avenue to explore as most people who aren't into it just move on by without the need to bash someone else's sexual preferences. I'm not gay but I would be put off if someone bashed my sex life. It's not about censorship, it's about respect. You're free to have your opinions but if it's at the cost of putting down a minority group for what they do in the privacy of their own homes? Seems a bit unnecessary.

And to be honest, the sub/Dom lifestyle is quite mainstream and nowhere near as subversive as you believe it to be. There is no need to hide. I realize that to you it seems to be something out there and possibly shameful, but these are no longer Donna Reed times. Dom/sub culture is not unusual and you probably cross paths with many people throughout the day who engage in the Dom/sub life.

 

[Rumors]

There is no trigger warning FYI.. it wasn't lost on me bc it didn't exist.
What I find so offensive is NUMBER 1 you hide behind an anonymous cloak to represent yourself. NUMBER 2 you hide behind the catch phrase "political correctness" when actually all you are spreading is phobia and based on your other forum posts, you desperately need to explore within yourself if you are in fact gay. NUMBER 3 you asked for truth and no political correctness and I give it to you and you think it is a "nonsense" and "offensive". You don't get it both ways punkin. You don't get to dish out male homosexuality as "eww" and then when someone calls you to point feep so apt to call it nonsense and offensive.

 

[anonymous]

You are all attacking now which is not surprising but is disheartening. My abuser was a very nice gay man in answer to your questions about my sexuality. Thank you all for your input and I am sorry that you are all so upset though your comments are so vile I find sympathy hard come by. Since this has now been edited by a mod I would ask one of you haters request the thread be taken down, I certainly agree. I won't respond or read it anymore. The hate in here is overwhelming. Thanks again!

 

[Rumors]

Hello pot, kettle is calling. Your hypocrisy is mind blowing. If you so choose to read my post as hating and vile then I suggest you go back and read your own comments. I would be very careful throwing bricks at glass houses. I wish you well but you seriously need to seek some professional help for what you have going on inside. It must be torturous living that kind of lie.

 

[anthony]

You are all attacking now which is not surprising but is disheartening.

The problem is that you are responding. What I would concur about, is that you started this in anonymity, which means you lost control of controlling the thread by using the reply ban feature. Not hiding behind anonymity when starting a thread, is often the best way to start a thread. That way... you maintain control over it as a premium member.

Staff have locked this, and I am leaving it that way. Take what is said for when you want to start another thread like this using anonymity, as a learning curve. Maybe best to be yourself and control the thread, that way it doesn't get locked -- and don't respond to argumentative or unhelpful responses -- just reply ban them from continuing such in your thread.

I have no issue with a comment like "ewww" about sexual preference. Its not homophobic, or anything phobic, its an opinion. Its not hatred either. There is a line for that, and you haven't crossed it. Again -- think about how you start such topics in future so you can control them.