Sex Offender As Therapist?!

[sedna]

Funny thing. I realized, over time, that the clinical professors and therapists I knew were ......

Aha ...you have nuclear science...not just cookies.

" Mind what you have learned...save you it can! " - Yoda

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

@Nessa7

I looked at the OVC Directory of Crime Victim Services. What a tremendous resource!

Did a few searches but I don't really know where to start with it.

Ben

 

[Nessa7]

First, you always want to leave "Type of Agency" blank, because most of the listings won't have anything there. Their zip code search also only searches in that zip code instead of any of the nearby ones, so that is usually something to skip, also.

Before you dive in, I would definitely take a look at a map to get an idea of the location, because you will end up doing a lot of scrolling to find cities. If you want records, you want to look for the courthouse's city first and not the city that he lived in or that the offense occurred in.

A lot of the kind of results you get is going to depend on the area. Some good searches would be to combine "Child Sexual Abuse" as the "Type of Victimization" with "Telephone Contacts," "Victims Rights Legal Services," If the courthouse is in an area that doesn't have a lot of people, you might just want to do a search for "Child Sexual Abuse" as the "Type of Victimization" and see what phone numbers it gets you.

Also, you could probably save time by calling The Center for Trauma and Resilience for help obtaining your brother's records in Colorado. Their focus is Denver, but they do offer referrals for other parts of the state.

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

Also, you could probably save time by calling The Center for Trauma and Resilience for help obtaining your brother's records in Colorado. Their focus is Denver, but they do offer referrals for other parts of the state.

Nessa, this is really helpful. I've wanted to order his court records for a long time, but every time I tried I got stuck. It's so hard to do this from out of state.

Thank you!

Ben

 

[Nessa7]

You're welcome! Unless things are different in Colorado, it is so much simpler when you are able to get records in person. With what your brother is attempting to do, I couldn't imagine someone not wanting to help you if they were in a position to.

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

With what your brother is attempting to do, I couldn't imagine someone not wanting to help you if they were in a position to.

I sure hope this proves to be true.

Ben

 

[CarerMum]

My brother is a registered sex offender (incest with a minor). He spent some six years in prison...

Good on you for trying your best to keep your brother out of a profession where he has vulnerability to his advantage.. And thank you.. Like I have been doing with my son.. Just keep going tI'll you find the right one.. We are trying a woman psychologist next hopefully she will be suitable

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

We are trying a woman psychologist next hopefully she will be suitable

Best wishes for a healthy match between the new psychologist and your son. :)

Ben

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

Well, things are getting uncomfortable again.

My mother has moved in with my brother. Last time she did that, he forbid me to call her on his home phone and so I had no way to talk to her. It was ugly.

This time, she's trying to pretend she has just moved into a different place, that she hasn't moved in with him. I know the truth, though, because when she gave me her new address, I quickly recognized it as my brother's address as listed on the sex offender registry.

I hate that she is indirectly lying to me.

It is so hard. She has listed him as a joint owner on all of her bank accounts and investments. He has all the information and all the rights but I have none. And, now that she's living with him again....

I am so sad. My mother is going to favor my brother for as long as she wants - and I know I can't make her want me. I'm her unwanted adult child, and that's the way it is, I have no choice in the matter.

I want to yell at her, tell her how I feel, tell her I hate her - but that would be mean, so I just keep it all inside. And that's where the depression comes from.

Sometimes, I wish she would die just so I no longer have to feel this way. I feel guilty about that.

 

[Freedomfighter]

My brother is a registered sex offender (incest with a minor). He spent some six years in prison...

Holy cow, but as I said in an earlier post, how many therapists are good or bad people?
Iam a whistleblower and have been abused by criminal justice workers that I asked for help. Soon after corrupt police officers connected to the criminal justice workers have injured me as well.

And now they have really upped the ante, introduced a corrupt therapist into one of my workplaces. This corrupt police? therapist acted towards me just like the stalkers did that Iam trying to escape from. He obviously knew me and that I have PTSD, pretended to be helpful with my case and pretended to protect me, with words. As soon as I showed fear and uncertainty towards that corrupt person he acted like previous stalkers and like the corrupt security officers. As soon as such a predator can tell that the victim is fearful they attempt to discredit the victim and make it seem like they abandon the victim by not aknowledging and help anymore, they simply attempt to make the victim believe that they have abandoned the victim which coincidentally is the cruel tactic of an abusive parent as well. Obviously this person entered a space in my workplace to hurt me and to attempt to dismember my criminal case.

They are sending much more capable abusers after me, they are sending the big dogs in now. And those big dogs are pretending to protect me, while they stalk me.

 

[Friday]

I am so sad. My mother is going to favor my brother for as long as she wants - and I know I can't make her want me. I'm her unwanted adult child, and that's the way it is, I have no choice in the matter.

I want to yell at her, tell her how I feel, tell her I hate her - but that would be mean, so I just keep it all inside. And that's where the depression comes from.

I wish I had better words than 'I'm sorry.'

Maybe if yelling at her isn't a choice you want to make, there's another choice that isn't directing it all inward, and crushing under the depression that comes with that? I tend towards on/off black/white this/that so I very much understand the either/or nature of lash out at her versus eat it all yourself... But perhaps there is a middle ground?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I am so sad. My mother is going to favor my brother for as long as she wants - and I know I can't make her want me. I'm her unwanted adult child, and that's the way it is, I have no choice in the matter.

I know how this feels. My dad & mom both thinks my brother is god. My dad literally worships him. He does no wrong. He could give 2 shits about me. Actually my entire family favors him. It's him before me and my half sisters, then my half sisters, then me; the f*cked in the head crazy one to be avoided at all costs.

He isn't a sex offender but I know the pain of favoritism in your family. It is the most depressing thing ever! What has helped me is to back away from it all and sort of see it from an outside view. I can't tell you how I did it and it was VERY hard fot me to do. It took up an entire 3 years of therapy. But eventually I was able to almost see it 3rd person looking in without emotion and the light came on at that point.

Now that I can do that and actively moving away from them literally, figuatively, spiritually, emotionally, and then my therapist started to build me up at that point by looking at attributes. Really look at them. Think about them. Mull them over. Pick them out as them happen. Make a list of when I see them. Things like that.

I am not saying that it doesn't still depress me, it does. I am saying that it doesn't put me over the edge suicidal now, or often. I have had several suicide attempts because of my family and many, MANY, more "almost" attempts where I had 300 pills in my hand about the take them. It affects me still but not near as much.

I'm sorry your mom is doing this! Maybe she is like my dad, put your head in the sand and pretend and say it isn't happening or it isn't so and convince yourself that it isn't...though it is. Maybe it is just too awful that she can't seem to believe it. Being "unbelieveable". Or "not my kid". Either way, I know it hurts and I'm sorry! :hug: