Sexual Assault Sexually Abused Boys/men?

[thisbejoe7]

The problem with statistics is that not everything gets reported, and there does seem to be a gender bias. I take all stats with a grain of salt.

 

[In Exile]

I was raped by my older brother. He abused my younger brother and some other boys as well. I was 11/12 and he was four years older, but I was tiny for my age and he was average, so it was like eight years difference in size.

My father had molested my sisters and a cousin. He told me in great detail about what he had done. I was 12 or 13.

Outwardly, we were a conservative Mormon family.

 

[newjackcheese]

I was raped by a guy I was trying to arrange a hook-up with. I still don't know (probably never will) if what he did was affected by me being born female. (I'm a female to male transgender man).

We were both gay men.

But I'm finding that there's really not a lot of resources out there. I don't want to call a women's crisis center. I'm not a woman. Why would I? There's this idea that men can't be raped or molested. It happens and then it's like- where the hell do you go after that? What the hell's out there?

Guess there's here at least.

 

[Bickslow]

It wasn't young sexual abuse, but I was sexually taken advantage of in my last...potentially last two relationship, my only two relationships. As a male (21 years old) it's hard...I'm supposed to be big and strong and tough and manly but...sex turned into and was used to cause huge damage to me. It affects my daily life now...arousal hurts, I turn my eyes down in shame when most men would stare on, and worst, beyond this forum I've never said a damn thing. No one would believe me. 'I'm a strong, independent, self employed male with a good head on my shoulders and excellent physical strength, who could EVER sexually abuse me?' And It's a vicious cycle...because of that I convinced myself what was going on was no big deal, that it wasn't hard on me, that I was being weak. Society tells me as a male down to the core I'm supposed to desire and want sex, and when my abuser drilled that into my as a child, it's hard beyond belief to accept and deal with the fact that what I've been told to desire has caused so much pain.

 

[.Bubbles.]

I feel so terrible for male survivours. Of course I feel terrible no matter the gender, but... There's just such an added sense of shame for males I think. Society tells us that males want sex, end of story. Even young boys. So they must enjoy any sexual attention they get. Complete BS. Males are human just like females. A young boy is not mature enough to deal with sex emotionally. And not every grown man wants sex with every female that crosses his path. And sexual abuse is that - abuse. Abuse is hurtful and unwanted no matter what gender you are.

Then there are males abused by males. That adds other questions, such as sexuality etc. And the shame. Many female survivours are met by a lot of shaming. Many of us find it difficult to talk about what happened. But a male talking about being sexually abused? Oh no. That kind of thing doesn't happen to males, right?!

There are obviously some brave male survivours on here. And I've known a few offline also. I think the only thing we can do, is talk about it more. It happens I'm afraid. Male on male, female on male...wake up.

I have a lot of respect for you guys who are here and say "this happened" You have every right to talk.

 

[Bickslow]

Thanks @Lovely Jubbly ...that really affected me to read. I'm strangely happy to know someone understands from the outside looking in...it's the most two-sided of all the abuse I've endured, to say the least :/

 

[.Bubbles.]

Brickslow - you're welcome. I do see it. It's no walk in the park as a female survivor, believe me. But like I said, I just feel there is extra hurdles for males.

Respect to you for talking about it here. It is a big deal, and takes nothing away from you as a man.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

As a victim of sexual abuse myself, being able to talk about this particular issue has been a struggle, particularly when it comes down to disclosing details. It is easier now though after diagnosis.

My heart goes out to all victims of sexual abuse, men and women alike. It makes no difference personally IMHO the gender of victim or offender. A sexual crime is a sexual crime regardless.

Laurie

 

[Friday]

Coming to this thread late... Referenced in another...

My former mother-in-law sells children to pedophiles. She always gets off on lesser charges (child endangerment, etc.), and sob stories to mental wards for a few months before she's out again. She's been doing this for decades, and the evil bitch is on my short list. On my long list are all the so called parents -many of them so called mothers- who use her 'services'. Babies. Toddlers. Elementary school kids. She's not a daycare provider. Give her your kids -or your foster kids- for a few hours and she'll pay you in drugs. It's some of the vilest filth I have ever come across. I was married to her son for years before I found out.

She ensures these kids are sexually abused. To me, that makes her a sexual abuser. Hundreds. Hundreds of kids funneled through her, and held prisoner by her until she sells them. Mostly young boys.