General Sharing The Cup With A Sufferer

[HelloMo80]

Hey everyone,

Although me and my ex made the decision to separate, I still want to inform him about PTSD related stuff so he can make informed decisions at his own pace. I'm working on myself FIRST. Yet, I'm still learning about PTSD because I witnessed the impact PTSD was having on his life. I was reading the "stress cup" PDF (which was brilliant, by the way) and I wanted to share some of it with it my ex, who is classic combat PTSD to a tee.

I don't believe now is the right time, but I do think eventually (maybe some weeks to a few months down the road) he should read it. Has anyone introduced this to a someone who knows they are a sufferer but hasn't sought treatment? Any advice about introducing this to him while he's still overseas (he will be there for another 10 months or so)? I know what my feelings say (oh, it's too much for him to handle, it might hurt his feelings...blah, blah, blah), but I also know what I know...and I know that head on is the best way.

Just wanted some suggestions or instances where people have introduced this to sufferers. Thanks in advance for any responses.

 

[Ice_Fire]

I'm a sufferer and read it myself, so I can't offer any advice on you sharing it with him. However, I found it a great relief, a sort of 'ah-ha' moment. It made sense to me and I felt less...inadequate.

So, I guess you could suggest he read it as 'it might make sense to you' or however you choose to say it. Up to him whether he actually reads it and his reaction to it.

I think you are brilliant and caring, trying hard to keep on supporting him. Hats off to you! :tup:

 

[HelloMo80]

Thanks. I'm glad that document helped you. He knows he has it, but as of yet, he's chosen not to do anything about it. I was kinda hoping that by reading it, he would be able to see himself and some of his actions more clearly as they relate to PTSD and maybe he'd be open to doing something about it for himself at a later date. Time will tell.

Thanks for the compliments. It sounds like you are taking care of yourself and that's a great thing, esp for anyone you are involved with. So hats back off to you! Lol;)

 

[Ice_Fire]

Haha thank you. I'm trying my best. It doesn't go away, it's unfair but I know that to have a better life I need to work at it. I put too much strain on my bf as it is lol.

I think it will help him, but you can't force him to take it on board. He needs to realize for himself that he's got to try to recover. Nobody can do it for him. :)

Good luck with whatever you decide.