Dom Violence She Crushed My World, And Now Is Trying To Destroy What Is Left

[Freedomfighter]

Hey all,

Firstly, sorry this is a long one.

My wife destroyed the world as I know it on the 7th fe...

It sounds like she may have mental problems. As a new mom I went briefly through some postpartum depression too, but this scenario sounds very different.

To me postpartum depression was more of a silent malady in which the mom is slightly depressed but usually overcomes it.

But when someone shows open anger, also physical anger then I would suggest there is something else going on.

It could also be that there are several maladies that are afflicting your wife.

One has to learn if a person does such things on purpose or not. When someone stands in front of me I can immediately tell whether or not it is an act and boy have I seen some hollywood acts:
I have seen rapists who claimed they have been raped.
I have seen stalkers who insist they are being stalked.

The list goes on and on and of course if that is the case then it is calculated gaslighting.

Such a person in my opinion can only be diagnosed by a psychiatrist. And then there are even very difficult people who are so cunning, sociopaths that often can not be diagnosed by even a psychiatrist because they have their acts of lies at such a niveau that even a specialist can't tell.

I would suggest first to get a diagnosis from a psychiatrist though.
I have seen such anger before and the more I learn about people, every time such anger shows the person is either afflicted with a mental condition or is on drugs, alcohol, or both.

 

[The Albatross]

So sorry I was absent/unavailable... and hope that you're not still on the roller coaster @didithappen - check in?

 

[GrayOwl]

Hi Alba,
Cross threading here, pardon me.....
But no, didithappen hasn't checked in as far as I know.
I was linked over here after perusing another thread and spent some time reading through the postings here. I was quite touched by the carnage and the sentiments, so I posted. I just thought I'd throw a "message in a bottle" in case he ever did check back in.
I'm struggling with "man's inhumanity to man" right now. This definitely hit a chord along those lines.
And BTW..............be good! Hope things are well in your world.

 

[didithappen]

Hey all, thanks for the comments.

It was a ruff ride, and she is still being a bitch, I still 2 years on from family court do not get my son for the time allocated by the original court order, so I am taking her back to court on the 24th April to have the order enforced.

Had false accusations again, she managed to convince my son to make an allegation (sexual and serious) at school to his teacher about me, but thankfully after explaining our history the school were great and nothing came of it.

We are divorced and settled finally, so she no longer has that tie to my life. My partner is great, supportive and loving, and I am growing in my new life, getting stronger each and every day.

I still have a wobble every now and then, and he always pulls me out of them. Any one else suffer crashes. For me sometimes, in the shower suddenly the world disappears, I can't stop crying, no idea why, start shaking, and I am no longer in the here and now.

My partner always finds me and pulls me back to reality, takes hugs and a while for me to come back down. And more often than not cannot remember what triggered it, or what it was about.

Still dealing with coming to terms with PTSD, only three years in after diagnosis...... still adjusting.

Generally though, I am enjoying life, last 2 years fell in with a gym, struck up a freindship with the owner, he knew I was a software developer, and over the last 18 months have been writing an app with his input for Personal Trainers, and we go to market Monday! Exciting times, and nice to have a semi normal life back. Also had free gym for last 2 years which has helped me recover, getting fit, getting my body back and life back in order, really has helped, regular exercise has revitalised me, when I really hit rock bottom.

I know I suffered a complete mental breakdown through this entire process, but thankfully I had a supportive partner to bring me back out. Not fully out by any means, but not as broken as when I started this thread.

Will never forgive my ex for what she did, specifically for taking my son away for over 10 months, I practically missed him from age 2 to 3, so I missed him changing from a baby/toddler to a little boy. For that, I can never forgive, but I have let go of my hatred, I cannot hate anymore, it eats, consumes and wreaks you.

Cut all toxic friends (that hurt letting go) but again, cannot have anyone who drags me down, and now..... now I wake with a smile and go to sleep in minutes from resting my head on the pillow, for the first time in my entire life! Before I would take upwards of 2-3 hours to go to sleep, tossing and turning.

Thank you all so much for your comments, I do check in from time to time, but now trying to get a new business of the ground to secure mine and my sons futures. Will always pop back in. Support here has helped beyond words, when I needed it most.

 

[GrayOwl]

Thank you so much for posting and for the good news.
Best of wishes in all that transpires with your son.
Nice to know that there are healing paths that work.
Very encouraging.
Also, good luck with the launch of your app!!