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Ive posted a few times on here and found it extremely helpful. The advice has always been honest and genuine. I recently ran into an ex gf (with diagnosed PTSD) that I hadn't seen since she moved across the country 5 months earlier. We had only exchanged a few texts after she left. No real conversations. I hadn't actually heard her voice since before she broke it off (by text with no explanation). She was in the area for a few months before the move and we text a few times a week before she left. The week she left she invited me out to see her before she left and said she was sorry for how things ended. But I don't think she actually could handle it and it didn't work out. My understanding was that she couldn't be in a relationship and we had gotten close pretty fast. So she ran away.
When I ran into by chance, we actually talked for awhile about nothing serious. More catching up. She told me she moved back in the area (about 30 miles away) a week or so earlier. It was nice to see her and hear her voice. Apparently later that night she had a conversation with my good friend and told him how she missed me and that she screwed up the only thing good to happen to her. He told her if she felt that way, she should call me. The next day was thanksgiving and I sent her a simple "happy thanksgiving" text. She responded by calling me a few minutes later and she was crying. She said she had a fight with her friend and had a bad night. It seemed like there was more behind the crying. We only talked for a few minutes, since she was heading somewhere. Later that night we texted for awhile about nothing serious, just joking around stuff. I have text her a few times since that night (maybe 3 or 4 times in past month). I've always kept it short and basic "hello and how are you" texts. She hasn't initiated any contact since thanksgiving. She typically responds with only a few words, but almost always respond right away if I text.
My dilemma is that I believed and accepted when she moved that I would never see her again. We've always had a connection and she seemed to regret the breakup, but doesn't know how to make amends (my interpretation of her talk with my friend about me and the phone call). I'm not one who makes the type of connection we had very often. I still think about her regularly and very much care for her. I don't know how to proceed. If I should continue making casual contact and wait for her to start any real conversation or just leave her alone completely. She knows I care, but I had pushed in the past and it made her grow more distant. I'm not waiting around or putting my life on hold by any means. But, it's tough to not know what to do with someone who still makes me smile when I think of her. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
When I ran into by chance, we actually talked for awhile about nothing serious. More catching up. She told me she moved back in the area (about 30 miles away) a week or so earlier. It was nice to see her and hear her voice. Apparently later that night she had a conversation with my good friend and told him how she missed me and that she screwed up the only thing good to happen to her. He told her if she felt that way, she should call me. The next day was thanksgiving and I sent her a simple "happy thanksgiving" text. She responded by calling me a few minutes later and she was crying. She said she had a fight with her friend and had a bad night. It seemed like there was more behind the crying. We only talked for a few minutes, since she was heading somewhere. Later that night we texted for awhile about nothing serious, just joking around stuff. I have text her a few times since that night (maybe 3 or 4 times in past month). I've always kept it short and basic "hello and how are you" texts. She hasn't initiated any contact since thanksgiving. She typically responds with only a few words, but almost always respond right away if I text.
My dilemma is that I believed and accepted when she moved that I would never see her again. We've always had a connection and she seemed to regret the breakup, but doesn't know how to make amends (my interpretation of her talk with my friend about me and the phone call). I'm not one who makes the type of connection we had very often. I still think about her regularly and very much care for her. I don't know how to proceed. If I should continue making casual contact and wait for her to start any real conversation or just leave her alone completely. She knows I care, but I had pushed in the past and it made her grow more distant. I'm not waiting around or putting my life on hold by any means. But, it's tough to not know what to do with someone who still makes me smile when I think of her. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
