Should i dump him because...

[J_trustno1]

He has an illness?

I've been dating this wonderful guy who has always been honest about everything to me from the beginning. He has told me that he has Giardia from past one year due to drinking contaminated water and as a result of this he's losing weight.

Here is the info about Giardia:
"Giardia is a parasite that can infect your bowels (intestines) and cause giardiasis which can lead to sudden-onset (acute) or persistent (chronic) diarrhoea. Infection often occurs after drinking contaminated water containing the parasite, or eating food prepared or washed using contaminated water"

This infection affects ability to do tasks and affects his confidence and caused him depression. He has tried 3-4 cycles of prescribed antibiotics but the parasite hasn't left his intestine.

How my confusion is: do I dump him because of this? We've been dating for almost 3 months now. My mother is not very happy with me dating an ill person I'm confused, please help.

 

[Kintsugi]

Wtf, Jas. Does he know you have PTSD? Maybe his mother would not be happy he's dating an ill person, either?

Seriously... you've been searching for a good guy for a damn long time. Now you're considering whether or not you want to date a wonderful guy because he has a health condition? Is there anything besides your mother's opinion that makes you wonder if your relationship will work because of his illness?

 

[J_trustno1]

I'm not trying to run away from him but he makes his health an issue and keeps asking how will a live with him. And as soon as my mother found out about his health she started feeding me negative. I love him and i care about him but at times he pushes me away saying I'll leave him one day because of his health issue. I've told him from the beginning that I'm not going to but he gets all worried and then worries me too :(

 

[Kintsugi]

Three months is a very short time. I really wouldn't worry about it, and I'd encourage him not to worry about the future and just enjoy the budding relationship. Following that, your mother's concern over a very new relationship is peculiar to say the least.

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks simon

 

[Fadeaway]

Giardia is curable. It is not a life long illness that someone is going to struggle with *clears throat loudly* Antibiotics aren't great at killing parasites, I know you know this information and I know you know which medications do. If I were you I would be looking at medication that do. Heck, try wormwood. Go put your personal research skills and chemistry knowledge to work.

I am in 100% full agreement with everything @Simply Simon said.

 

[Friday]

So your mother considers life long abuse, sexual abuse, child abuse, & CSA just fine and dandy; but a temporary illness that causes diarrhea -& that most people get several times in their life- worth breaking up over??? :O_o: Have you considered that your mother may not be a good source of advice on life choices? Or entirely right in the head?

 

[Kintsugi]

^ I was thinking the saaaame thing...

 

[J_trustno1]

Agreed @Friday , @Simply Simon and @Fadeaway. I'm going to research on this and help him get rid of this parasite. It is affecting his confidence so badly. I Will *NOT* listen to my mother ever again. Heck, she never dumped my psycho father or her dysfunctional sociopath narcissistic relatives and why would I dump someone based on her irrational thinking! Nope, not again.

 

[Casey_03]

I can't help but think that if you're even asking this, you must not be that into him. Kind of seems like you're looking for an excuse to break up with him, to be honest. And if that's the case, and you're just not that into him, that's fine and you have every right to end things.

 

[Deadman]

Even if the meds do not work well Giardia can clear up on its own. I got Giardia once in Pakistan and once in Sri Lanka. I only had it treated in Sri Lanka. With or without meds it took about a month to clear up.

I'm not sure what the water and hygiene situation is where you and your BF are living but he could unknowingly be reinfecting himself.

 

[Sideways]

Thing about long term relationships, if that's where this is headed...He's gonna get sick. You're gona get sick. You're both gonna have ups and downs. You're both gonna have periods where something will set your self-esteem crashing for a while. These are part of life. They're part of relationships. If you're looking for someone that never gets sick or never gets low self-esteem from being sick? That person doesn't exist.