Should i dump him because...

[J_trustno1]

Very well said @Ragdoll Circus. Thanks for the insight.

 

[Justmehere]

Giardia is very treatable, and I have never heard of anyone leaving someone over it. In the US, it's the most common parasitic infection. It usually lasts days to weeks - but if treatment is delayed, it can become a chronic issue that can lasts for a few years. It isn't fun to deal with, but having to deal with this issue shouldn't be a deal breaker for romantic relationships.

If this is a deal breaker, then there is probably more going on than this little bug.

I think an equally important question to ask is "should I be listening to my mother for relationship advice?" If you want to have the kinds of relationships she has, then listen to her input. If you want something different, then you have to continue to challenge her thinking in your head, especially about relationships.

If you decide that you don't want to follow her input on your relationships, then it might be time to set some boundaries with her input. They may simply be internal boundaries, where you make the commitment to let her keep her own opinions and not take them on as your own (so easy to say, harder to do.) They may also be external boundaries, where you let her know that you are not interested in discussing this with her and will take space from talking with her if she continues to bring this up.

I love him and i care about him but at times he pushes me away saying I'll leave him one day because of his health issue. I've told him from the beginning that I'm not going to but he gets all worried and then worries me too :(

His pushing you away may actually be one of the deeper issues to work through with him. Do you know if others have left him because of it? Does he have a fear of abandonment that shows up in other ways?

His worry about it may be starting to go in the direction of a self fulfilling prophesy. Maybe he is so scared he's creating what he fears by pushing you away in order to find control over his fear. Maybe you could ask him what might help him not push you away as much?

Listen to your wise mind about what you like about him and what you don't. Weigh out the pros and cons, and what's in your heart and mind, seperate from your mother's opinions. You know a lot better than she does about what is right for you.

 

[J_trustno1]

My mother has a problem with his weight loss and his skinnyness. Plus she cares about him not having a qualification like mone and not having a white collar job.