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How I operate:So, should I write and forgive him? Will this help my healing path? Im afraid that this could backfire on me. Did anyone did this?
I only even bother asking myself if I might want to forgive someone -who has wronged me- IF AND ONLY IF they are a person I wish to keep active and engaged in my life.
For anyone else who has wronged me, or those I love? I just decide if it’s worth killing them over, or not.
- If it’s not worth killing then? Then that’s easy.
It’s not about forgiveness, it’s about understanding. “This” is them. A small piece of them, or a foundational piece of them, or whatever. Something I can continue to expect from them, in one form or another. Either on a regular basis, or when the circumstances are right.
- I decide if someone IS worth killing? Then things become complicated.
I don’t walk around killing everyone who deserves it. Mores the pity.
What’s telling for me, here… is the idea that unless you forgive someone to their face / they KNOW you are forgiving them (like by writing them a letter)… then what? They’re not forgiven? Or???So, should I write and forgive him? Will this help my healing path? Im afraid that this could backfire on me. Did anyone
Do you really need someone else’s permission/awareness before you can do something?
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