Thank you so so much for this. I’ve not forgiven my mother or brother for what they did to me, but there is so much literature that says we must forgive to move forward (but I dont agree). Your post helps with what im working throughI forgive myself for not forgiving my Malignant Narcissist mother, Narc sister and Narc sexually abusive brother and my weak father. I dont forgive any of them. I forgive myself for that.
I was the only one who believed what they were and I cut all of them off eventually. It was good and right.