Should I Seek Help?

[PittieMama]

So my boyfriend and I (he has combat ptsd) broke up earlier this summer and got back together on the condition that we'd start going to counseling (I really wanted the best for us). Almost 2 hectic months later, he's said he talked to his therapist about getting us in somewhere, but it's taking a while (and he misses his last therapy appointment and I don't know if he's even rescheduled yet) and I don't know if he's really trying or just making excuses. I have behavioral health care through my job and I was wondering if it would be ok to talk to someone either on my own or try and get him to jet be make an appointment with someone through there instead of the va. I'm just out of my mind sometimes with anxiety and I feel like I'm being met with a brick wall.

 

[Friday]

I think talking about seeing someone privately before you go do it, would be very important.

The nice thing about the VA, aside from the whole free-factor, and the used to combatPTSD factor, is that there are often couples groups... And at least in LosAngeles, and possibly a few other places, a whole sex&relationships/ intimacy unit.

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/news/2014/oct/11/veterans-sexual-dysfunction-ptsd/

The not nice things about the VA are a little too long to list. A few front runners, though, include wait times of up to several years long, and a run-around SOP that makes a marathon look like a jog around the block. A lot of the vets I know have flat out given up on them. Some locations are great, some are worse than free-Clincs in the ghetto staffed by nonEnglish Speaking Medschool dropouts with a drug problem. Even the great ones, though? Can be an exercise in full on frustration. Personally, I can't deal with them at all. Anxiety through the roof just for starters.

Seeing someone privately, as long as they understand PTSD -especially combatPTSD- might be a godsend... Or it might make everything unbearably complicated... If your BF actually has the system working for him. So, personally, I would chat him up first.