LostBear-I am so sorry this happened to you. Just remember there are jack @$$es in all walks of life. When I was working on an associates degree at a community college, I had one of the worst psych teachers ever. At first I really liked her, she was creative with students and had a lot to offer during a couple of night classes.
Then I took 2 day classes back to back. The evening classes were more adult students like myself, the day classes were mostly very young people. For these classes, she gave huge points for attendence, so heavily that if you came to class and flunked all tests you would still have a B. She did not use a sign in sheet (she said students signed friends in) and she looked around and decided herself who was there. There were abot 40 students in these classes. If you sat in a different seat, you would be counted absent.
She was unclear on instructions so after each class her desk was surrounded by young students with questions. One class was drug addiction and she contradicted the text book on drug classification, so you had to decide whether to answer question according to theory or according to her.
She had me absent several times because I was in another seat. Yet I had parking tickets for overtime meter during her class hour. I did confront her and felt better for it. This was done with the dept head. She refused to see it any way but hers. I did not have time to hang at her desk to get questions answered that could have been made clear in class ( had to pick up kids from school and go to work)
She would have students do exercises such as interview someone with a list of questions such as what the did for their mother on mothers day, how often they have dinner with their family. She would have students share this in class and say that this person is not someone who would commit a school shooting, etc. These young people would eat up what she said. I felt very frustrated at paying for this and listening to this garbage. If she could tell someones potential for future behavior by this questionairre, she would be at a high paying job with the government, not at this crappy community college.
Anyway, it really hit a nerve with me that she was feeding young people misinformation. That she was inaccurate in attendance, that in order to get accurate instructions, you needed to hang around her desk for an hour after class. As I distanced myself from this, it was clear that this is how she fed her ego. She held students hostage with her "opinions" and they dare not disagree.
This was just a step in my education, and as I said, having experienced life, I was glad to move on. When I got as many of these cheap credits as I could, I moved on to a great college to finish my Bachelors, and then University for Masters in psych.
I do not know what kind of college that you attend, but this behavior may be found more unacceptable at a good college/university than if it is a community college. Try not to let this get to you on a personal level. Her behavior says more about her. Her accusations did not disclose your personal information (she was guessing) even though it may feel that way. You have experienced a social injustice and have the ability to be a voice for all. (((hugs)))
