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[Dynamic]

Can someone relate?

Whats your experiences getting into a serious relationship with someone you always intended dating from the beginning; such as a friend introduced you two for the purpose of dating, met on dating app or something

Vs

dating someone after being friends first

What do you think some differences would look like?

Does this make sense?

 

[Notgoodatnames]

Personally I've never managed dating anyone from the first category, because it's too much pressure: people seem to want to get too close too quickly. For me I might be able to look at a photo of someone and say "I wouldn't categorically rule out dating them" but that is not the same thing as knowing I'd be interested, and then people get all touch-feely (both physically and emotionally) way too fast which makes me freeze and run away. Getting to know someone and gradually realizing there's an attraction and then ending up dating them gives you some time to suss out how you feel without pressure. That being said, I don't know about dating someone you've been friends with for a long time prior, as that also seems like a lot of pressure, and maybe they'd know you too well and then there'd be no honeymoon period where they only see your good side.

 

[Movingforward10]

I 've been in a relationship for 22 years. So my experience of these things is from long ago and when I was young. And I think that being young is very different to starting a relationship when older.

I did both. My ex, we were friends for a year before we got together.
And my partner, we met through an ad I put out so it was intentional.
What was the difference? There was more riding on the friendship as of it went wrong, it would have impacted the friendship and friendship group. (When we split up, that happened but I worked through it).
With meeting someone purely for the reason to get on, for me it took the pressure off.

Now? Idk.
From what I see from my single friends, they want connection and friendship and building it up rather than meeting someone for the purpose of a relationship.

What's driving your question? Maybe that's the thing to explore?