anthony
Founder
Jen, he doesn't know what to do at present. He certainly isn't having rational thoughts, and is most likely more concentrated on what is going on inside him to just get through each day, regardless of his location. Lets face facts... depression is a killer, and what your husband is suffering in regards to laying in bed all day, no motivation, no energy, etc, is depression at its finest. To even get around to tackling anxiety and his trauma, he has to beat depression first, so he can sustain the motivation required to get himself better.
Sure, our illness makes us physically sick at times, but the depression side of things is mostly curable by itself, its just that with PTSD, it is not, and will return or try and return once controlled. Once you have beat depression, it is easy enough to maintain it, without all the extra work that is required to just beat it in the first place.
He needs to focus, he needs to know that what he is going through is depression, and that depression will kill him if not fixed. If the mind and body isn't active, then they shutdown. Obviously being still young, that won't kill him directly, but the more he is defeated by it, the more he will start to think about suicide, ending his pain, etc etc, or if severe enough, he could start getting other problems as a result of his inactivity.
Lots of people in the world struggle each morning to get going, with or without PTSD and depression, and this needs to be realised. What he needs to do is FORCE himself, or BE FORCED out of bed and into the shower. Once he has woken up, he should be good for a while. He needs something to keep him busy, but not something that he is going to throw himself into and use as an excuse to suppress his symptoms, and deny anything is wrong, because that doesn't work. He needs a daily routine, he needs a hobby, an interest, something more than just things around the house, but something outdoors even. He needs to take a giant leap and see if there are organizations that he could join to be with others off like interests, etc.
He will need kicking... if ignored, it will get worse.
Sure, our illness makes us physically sick at times, but the depression side of things is mostly curable by itself, its just that with PTSD, it is not, and will return or try and return once controlled. Once you have beat depression, it is easy enough to maintain it, without all the extra work that is required to just beat it in the first place.
He needs to focus, he needs to know that what he is going through is depression, and that depression will kill him if not fixed. If the mind and body isn't active, then they shutdown. Obviously being still young, that won't kill him directly, but the more he is defeated by it, the more he will start to think about suicide, ending his pain, etc etc, or if severe enough, he could start getting other problems as a result of his inactivity.
Lots of people in the world struggle each morning to get going, with or without PTSD and depression, and this needs to be realised. What he needs to do is FORCE himself, or BE FORCED out of bed and into the shower. Once he has woken up, he should be good for a while. He needs something to keep him busy, but not something that he is going to throw himself into and use as an excuse to suppress his symptoms, and deny anything is wrong, because that doesn't work. He needs a daily routine, he needs a hobby, an interest, something more than just things around the house, but something outdoors even. He needs to take a giant leap and see if there are organizations that he could join to be with others off like interests, etc.
He will need kicking... if ignored, it will get worse.