So So Angry.

[macbeth]

To give a little perspective on the situation, my partner has been in therapy too for his temper. He has anger management issues that impact on the family so the word abuse did stick to me.

 

[macbeth]

I am aware of my behaviour @Solara and have examined it. What made me so angry was that my partner has been in therapy for his temper and told me that if he didn't hit me then I shouldn't be scared! I do have some perspective.

 

[Pencil]

The question here is whether you've spoken about these issues before, or whether this came totally out of the blue.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Whoa, really? If he doesn't hit you, you shouldn't be scared? Has this attitude changed with therapy? I sure hope so! It sounds like you may be in a toxic environment? Sorry, we didn't have those further pieces of the puzzle, ie that he has a temper. I'd guess that he has indeed been abusive at times if he is in therapy for his temper AND he says that you shouldn't be scared if he doesn't hit you (excuses for VERBAL violence......) Yes, I think your guy is verbally violent. People don't see words as violence, but they can very much be so. Its the old sticks and stones argument. If his temper doesn't improve, then maybe you should get out. You deserve a SAFE environment to live in, and if its not with him, then maybe it should be without him.

 

[Tanishq]

@macbeth his quick temper might be triggering you.