Social Anxiety and Self Image

[Simple]

Hi Guys,

What's the best way you have solved bad Self Image issue in order to be able to express yourself fully?


I would be happy to hear some answer. Be Free and say everything.

 

[somerandomguy]

Therapy.

 

[TruthSeeker]

Art, music, writing/journaling, poetry AND lots of therapy!

 

[MrMoonlight]

I have a difficult time so with this. Over time I think questioning ants (automatic negative thoughts), core beliefs and exposure are all helping me right now. I think some level of success in some area could be a great step.

Do you have anything in your life right now that you enjoy or do well at?

I'm supposed to clear an area in my garage so I can install a speed punching bag. It's something that links into something that makes me feel good about myself.

 

[Simple]

@MrMoonlight

I already have things I truly know I love, but that image about myself, how do I change THAT ( way I see myself being exposed to other people).

And to add when I wrote "express yourself fully" I mean to allow yourself to just BE, express and love that expression of yours.

 

[ladee]

How do you see yourself in regard to how you are with other people? That would help me to answer. Thanks.

 

[SheWrote]

Hi Guys,

What's the best way you have solved bad Self Image issue in order to be able to express yourself fully?


I would be happy to hear some answer. Be Free and say everything.

Choosing to love yourself and even like what you see is super important. Look in the mirror at yourself, look in your eyes and truly see yourself... that really changed me. Also, I am not sure if you believe in God, but once I realized He made me the way that I am, and embraced that, I also began to see myself in a more positive way. And now I can say, after 40 years of self-hatred and insecurity, I love myself! :)

 

[Simple]

How do you see yourself in regard to how you are with other people? That would help me to answer. Thanks.

Well, something like this basic idea that I'm not worthy, not deserving love, fear or anxiety that gets triggered by me being around people (which mostly dosen't have to do anything with current situation, but feels like real, the pain is there). That I'll be negatively judged - like has to be negative. That resistance stops me from being me, living.

 

[Mach123]

Well, something like this basic idea that I'm not worthy, not deserving love, fear or anxiety that gets triggered by me being around people (which mostly dosen't have to do anything with current situation, but feels like real, the pain is there). That I'll be negatively judged - like has to be negative. That resistance stops me from being me, living.

Resistance is a concept I learned from the Sedona method I like to hear it mentioned.

I can't answer though because self loathing is a kind of counterpoint to "be free and say everything ." I still have self loathing and though I try and not be negative I feel this is inneffectual because it's in the subconscious. I'm somewhat better though? Not really depressed.

I've read Nisargadatta Maharaj which makes the therapist think I'm enlightened. When I hear love yourself and you're an expression of love I think of him, I love him.

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So I agree with everything you said and I feel just like you but I haven't solve it.

 

[ladee]

There is no simple answer. It's confusing because others and many bad situations contributed to our low self worth.

We start our healing work to find out now we are the ones who have to change it. Nothing fair about that.

Theapy. Finding people who will mirror back the good and right they see in us. A lot of hard work to UN learn what we have come to believe about ourself.

Being in a healing community like this one. With people who understand and support our healing work.

Being willing to do the work to change our lives. Not easy and not fair.

Asking questions like you did and wanting the changes. You are off to a great start by wanting answers!

I still have my moments. But not years and months and days. Keep telling yourself you are worth the work even when you don't believe it.

Sorry, wish I had some quick and easy answers. You can do this and you are not alone. Understanding hug if you accept. :hug:

 

[TruthSeeker]

How do you see yourself in regard to how you are with other people? That would help me to answer. Thanks.

In less familiar or unfamiliar social situations, I see myself as weak, less than them, not quite as comfy w social groups, always comparing myself, and unable to relax. It keeps me on guard and probably a bit unauthentic.

Well, something like this basic idea that I'm not worthy, not deserving love, fear or anxiety that gets triggered by me being around people (which mostly dosen't have to do anything with current situation, but feels like real, the pain is there). That I'll be negatively judged - like has to be negative. That resistance stops me from being me, living.

Ditto that!

 

[ladee]

This is why we need people in our lives that understand and mirror back the good and right things about us until we can come to belive it for ourself.