Social Anxiety and Self Image

[TruthSeeker]

This is why we need people in our lives that understand and mirror back the good and right things about us until we can come to belive it for ourself.

Those of us who have “healthier” friends are lucky. I’m am grateful for the healthy caring people in my life- because they do help us to feel better. Since going NC w family, I send myself fewer negative messages.

 

[ladee]

Me too @Wilbur!! Getting away from all that toxic shame and chaos has helped immensly. I too have a few great friends that are present for navigating life.

We are blessed and grateful!!

 

[HealingInProcess]

Me too @Wilbur!! Getting away from all that toxic shame and chaos has helped immensly. I too have a few great friends that are present for navigating life.

We are blessed and grateful!!

I am thankful you both have these friends in your live so you have someone to lean on.

 

[Simple]

How do you see yourself in regard to how you are with other people? That would help me to answer. Thanks.

Like I'm not worth it, not worth their love and attention. Like judging myself before, sometimes while talking. I start talking with a normal tone and then very quiet like someone put hands around my neck and getting quieter and quieter. Nothing bed happen outside, but inside...

 

[TruthSeeker]

Like I'm not worth it, not worth their love and attention. Like judging myself before, sometimes while talking. I start talking with a normal tone and then very quiet like someone put hands around my neck and getting quieter and quieter. Nothing bed happen outside, but inside...

When I believed I was a noone....I had more negative thoughts....more flashbacks.....and it wasn't until I was able to say I'm worth it to myself-and fought the negative thinking....that the flashbacks reduced, and the more I realized I am worth it...the less power the past had over my present. I flip this around to they (abusers) are sick, their sickness has negatively impacted me. Since we become more like those we are with regularly, I choose not to be like them....I want to be different.....I want to be kind and loving.....and being different is a good thing (I don't do their lifestyle of drinking, drugging, and hurting others)....I'm not bad. I want to be healthy so I can't be with them. I do have value, and what they have to offer is not love.....it is not warm, inviting, accepting or comforting-like love is......and the attention they give......inappropriate, self-motivated and almost always hurtful in some way. I have a choice as to how healthy I want to be. There are always choices. Different.....kinda growing on me. It's okay to leave, and okay to be different.

 

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