Spent The Day In Bed Crying

[Marylost]

Hi guys, I've got PTSD and just couldn't get out of bed today. Cried quite a bit which I suppose is better than being numb. My moms been given about two years to live so I guess I'm grieving too. Any tips on how to function normally? Couldn't even go in to see my mom today. Any advice welcome.

 

[lucius.beach]

Under such stress, and emotional turmoil, the grieving process is functioning normally. Even though you aren't doing and going about things how you normally do, this is how your body processes and maintains. I could be wrong, but in my experience I let things flow. It's definitely hard, and people aren't going to understand due to individuality, I would try to just let the grieving happen, take things by the minute or hour, not try and focus on the big day type picture and do your best to do what needs to be done, and take time for your body and brain to relax and go through what it needs to in order to process and get back to health.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

@Marylost sending lots of loving thoughts your way <3 what a heartbreaking situation!! I would just try to focus on spending time with your mom as much as you can. And do little things to make her happy.

 

[sun seeker]

So sorry to hear about your mom. What a sad situation.

As far as the crying goes, crying itself can be a good thing if it is releasing emotion. It's if you get stuck in it that it becomes a problem. Crying all day is physically exhausting, so anything you can do to support your body and give it strength to do the releasing it needs to do is important. I wonder what would feel nurturing. A hot bath? Hot chocolate or tea? Some soothing music? A soft blanket or something else that nourishes your sense of touch?

 

[Deleted member 19804]

I'm really sorry to hear about your mom. These things are so unfair. I'm afraid I cannot give you any tips on how to manage the crying, but I like the ideas the people before me suggested. If you accept hugs, I'm sending you many.

 

[Lostmary]

Thank you for all of your kind words and suggestions. I used spotify classical music and rehydrated. I'll definitely sleep tonight. Plan on doing some yoga or Pilates tomorrow to feel fresher. She's got a degenerative brain disease so now has a lot of trouble communicating and is in full time care. I guess it just hits you harder at times. Lots of love to you all and thank you xx

 

[falling_wave]

I think in light of the circumstances you are functioning pretty normally. I would suggest making as much of a routine as possible. If you have good friends tell them you are going through this and ask them to invite you to get out of the house maybe once or twice a week so you can escape the sadness. Routine has always helped me with grief and following it. Also weekly therapy and Journaling is really helpful. Don't Fogel to get outside and walk sometimes and the basics eat healthy and regular and get 8 hours of sleep if possible. Hope you feel better and I definitely can relate with the struggle. It's just time needed to grieve and heal.

 

[Marylost]

That's good advice. I need to keep a good routine. Part of my routine is the care assistants course I'm doing online which I found hard to focus on yesterday being so emotional. I like the course content, but it's very similar to what I'm going through right now. Maybe I could find a way to make that work. Along with some yoga and Pilates.

 

[falling_wave]

@Marylost I'm in grad school and when my emotions are making it hard to study I go to starbucks in comfy clothes with a pillow to put on the chair and get a comforting drink. Then I will work on my laptop and people sometimes with music in my headphones. It majically gets done everytime and I feel better because I'm not isolating and have been productive.

 

[Marylost]

Great idea @falling_wave. I might try that the next time. Great tip. Bought my mom a poetry book today to read to her when she's able. Think she'll enjoy it. Thank you xx

 

[Marylost]

Woke up crying from a dream this morning. Need to try some meditation or something. Have started keeping a diary which helps get the emotionans out. My poor mom, I love her so much xxx