General Spouse/Significant Other & Getting Tired Of It

[phoenix_xiii]

I have a wonderfully patient, kind husband. He really is the best thing to ever happen to me. My question is does anyone have any ideas on how to support someone who is so kind and understanding to problems they don't, well... understand. He had a relatively easy going, "normal" life. He really has no emotional or mental issues. It's not my self esteem, I know sometimes he gets tired of it, I know sometimes I get tired of it ("it" being PTSD symptoms). Other than telling him outright, how do I support and appreciate all that he does for me? ie: calling him constantly while he's at work, waking him up in the middle of the night, my panic attacks and general sh***y feelings?

 

[Tinyflame]

Hi phoenix, welcome! :hello:

Perhaps a thought is to keep working on other ways to cope/ keep healing so that you don't also have to call him so frequently, can "wake up" without waking him up, etc.

And capitalize on the "good days"- do things for him that might make him happy/ reduce his work. Share his burdens and really listen.

I find that sometimes people who are the most kind/ understand the best have gone thru much more than they let on. He may feel like he doesn't want to "burden you" with "his" problems. Let him know it will actually help you to do so. He may understand a lot more than you realize.

Either way, it sounds like you (both) feel very grateful/ lucky to have each other. You can't say that enough.

 

[pebbels]

Hello Phoenix:hello:Wow you are so lucky to have a supportive husband:thumbs-upcredit to him because it's not easy, i would just keep telling him either verbally or via a card constantly how wonderful he is and maybe introduce him into this site so he can get some understanding. All the best to you both:smile:

 

[TLight]

Phoenix;
I'm in the same place as you..........I feel like such a burden sometime, other times I totally withdraw so as not to let him 'see'.........

All I can say is try to show him how you feel about him, how much he means to you, and do what you can to ease his burdens........not matter how small you may think that gesture is.........I think it will go a long way.