-I am writing this because I have been getting pretty stressed out lately, i have actually seen my hairline recide in the last 2 months! and i feel hormonal like up-and-down lately like i haven’t in a long time, I think I am getting easily triggered. anyways below is what’s going on, sry if it isn’t the most tangibly written.
-I live with 4 roomies, and right now having a hard time and want to figure things out. 2 guys and 2 girls. I’m one of the guys, and there’s been a change in roomies alot lately- we are all new within 3 months. This one guy i got an unsettling feeling from-from the beginning though. He tries to be too intimate for me, eye contact, feels kinda insincere but always positive and peppy. He might also just be too talkative for me, I’m trying to figure out what it is.
I think i feel pressure to hang out more than i’d like as well from them, (i had lived alone last 3 yrs before this). I wish he would try less hard/give me more space, but i don’t know if i could have that conversation, b/c he seems/like everybody thinks-that he’s a really great guy, i don’t want to tell him that i don’t want to be best friends/need more space. It just feels wrong/bad, i don’t want him to feel bad.
-And weve hung out sometimes and had good enough times, but i just feel really empty afterwards, not how i feel when i hang out with my other good friends.
-I don’t think he’s doing it in a genuine way always, i think it’s to increase his self-esteem. (And i may be projecting onto him b/c part of it is also mine goes down abit when another guy connects better to me with females than me, and i’ve been trying to work on that and thought this might be beneficial/i could learn something, but it feels very adverse to what i want right now. I’m not thinking clearly it feels, and i feel like having hard time standing up for self and putting up my boundaries.
-Also sometimes when i’m in situations with men i do start to kinda shut down eventually, idk if it just requires alot of my energy, or if i compare too much, sometimes if also happens if there are women around, and maybe i am comparing in that sense and putting myself down/my insecurities come out. not sure.
-Also one of the girls seems to be peeved i dont always enjoy/want to hang out, i think she takes it personally maybe. She is french and not from here, and so maybe she wants to hang out with the roomies moreso because of this. Also i think i had a hard time setting my boundaries to start with because when i first moved in there was this person who was very judgemental and had a really negative attitude, didn’t respect my boundaries and we didn’t get along, and i am still kind of recovering from that I think (she left this past weekend and a new person has replaced her).
-I did write them a message on our group facebook message group a few weeks ago, about how i need my alone time, and explaining that kind of and that it’s not personal. but that was a few weeks ago. Right now I am planning on moving out in a month i think because I am feeling this way, but idk maybe i should try to move out even sooner.
-I live with 4 roomies, and right now having a hard time and want to figure things out. 2 guys and 2 girls. I’m one of the guys, and there’s been a change in roomies alot lately- we are all new within 3 months. This one guy i got an unsettling feeling from-from the beginning though. He tries to be too intimate for me, eye contact, feels kinda insincere but always positive and peppy. He might also just be too talkative for me, I’m trying to figure out what it is.
I think i feel pressure to hang out more than i’d like as well from them, (i had lived alone last 3 yrs before this). I wish he would try less hard/give me more space, but i don’t know if i could have that conversation, b/c he seems/like everybody thinks-that he’s a really great guy, i don’t want to tell him that i don’t want to be best friends/need more space. It just feels wrong/bad, i don’t want him to feel bad.
-And weve hung out sometimes and had good enough times, but i just feel really empty afterwards, not how i feel when i hang out with my other good friends.
-I don’t think he’s doing it in a genuine way always, i think it’s to increase his self-esteem. (And i may be projecting onto him b/c part of it is also mine goes down abit when another guy connects better to me with females than me, and i’ve been trying to work on that and thought this might be beneficial/i could learn something, but it feels very adverse to what i want right now. I’m not thinking clearly it feels, and i feel like having hard time standing up for self and putting up my boundaries.
-Also sometimes when i’m in situations with men i do start to kinda shut down eventually, idk if it just requires alot of my energy, or if i compare too much, sometimes if also happens if there are women around, and maybe i am comparing in that sense and putting myself down/my insecurities come out. not sure.
-Also one of the girls seems to be peeved i dont always enjoy/want to hang out, i think she takes it personally maybe. She is french and not from here, and so maybe she wants to hang out with the roomies moreso because of this. Also i think i had a hard time setting my boundaries to start with because when i first moved in there was this person who was very judgemental and had a really negative attitude, didn’t respect my boundaries and we didn’t get along, and i am still kind of recovering from that I think (she left this past weekend and a new person has replaced her).
-I did write them a message on our group facebook message group a few weeks ago, about how i need my alone time, and explaining that kind of and that it’s not personal. but that was a few weeks ago. Right now I am planning on moving out in a month i think because I am feeling this way, but idk maybe i should try to move out even sooner.
