Undiagnosed Sufferer still of emotional abuse - 22yo moving from mother’s to boyfriend’s

[Ashley4499]

Will the new city have a women’s shelter?

Maybe you could schedule appointments for the birds in the other city and act like you’re bringing them for a vet appointment? All birds should go yearly anyway, you could say? And here’s a (fake) good chance?

I understand your pain. If I knew you in person, I’d take those chickens without a second thought

Im not sure if it does tbh. I want to get my indepence enough that my boyfriend and i can live together without being dependent on him. And no the vet thing wouldnt work she already knows nowhere around here even awknowledges chickens because to the vets they arent an important animal. The original plan was for me to come back to go to a wedding then ship the birds out and leave here until she started with "well you have all this to do before you can leave and you shouldnt go in the winter, etc" and i know coming back means being caught here all over again and more stress on my relationship until the stress breaks us p then im back to dating druggies and toxic people that will keep me stuck here till i eventually just break down and stop fighting

 

[littleoc]

Oh, I’m sorry — I meant finding a vet in the other city.

So for your current plan to get out, you’re leaving too soon to ship out the chickens now?

Is your current boyfriend safe for you?

There have been threads in these forums in the past about help on moving away from abusers. It may be really helpful to start one, because people here have amazing advice about these topics. People have been through this as well. They may not see it here in the introductions, but they could offer you great insight I’m sure.

But I do think you should find a therapist in the new city as soon as you can. That will help you so much

 

[Ashley4499]

Oh yeah the vet i could probably fine. and yes i think he is. Hes been making sure i have a phone and food for the last almost two years before him it was common to go without food for several days at a time

Ill look at the threads and post there i just need to figure out how to cut ties thats my biggest issue right now and yeah as for the birds what was supposed to happen was i was gonna go out and soend halloween with him, come back for a wedding then ship the birds and leave but then she started making excuses of why i wasnt able to leave on the day we originally planned

 

[Justmehere]

October 17 is the date you fly out of state to be with your boyfriend? That’s awesome.

Right now it will be hard to let go. There is some loss. But hold on tight to what you gain: freedom.

Start now to find what you need to get your GED and get other things lined up like Medicaid and therapy. The more ties you have to the new place, the easier it will be to get space from her.

 

[Ashley4499]

October 17 is the date you fly out of state to be with your boyfriend? That’s awesome.

Right now it will be hard to let go. There is some loss. But hold on tight to what you gain: freedom.

Start now to find what you need to get your GED and get other things lined up like Medicaid and therapy. The more ties you have to the new place, the easier it will be to get space from her.

The birds have always been my space filler. When i didnt get love or i was judged i could go out with them so theres several that im extremely attached to. I also have things in boxes that idk what will happen to but yeah thats what im trying to focus on is freedom because if i come back here itll be back to toxic one night stands and dating druggies that are going nowhere. I need to do this its just really hard

 

[littleoc]

It sounds hard. I can imagine how close you are to the birds. Once you’re established elsewhere, hopefully you’ll be able to bring/ship the birds safely.

You can start a thread of your own. You could definitely benefit :)

 

[littleoc]

Hello :)

Did you make another thread?

Got any updates for us?