Hi
@Nicci777 , well, I find it hard to explain (because for me it is so obvious), but I guess the reasons that cross my mind are:
1) The short & long term repercussions for the person
2) The short & long term repercussions for our (or any) future relationship between us
3) The damage it could do, even with need or good intentions: meaning well but it could push the person over the edge. Also, I am not a person who feels like I've 'done something good or right' by simply passing the problem on to others.
4) Because some things I do understand. I also understand that there's likely much I don't know/ don't understand.
5) Because timing means a lot. And because I cannot trust I can properly identify that. (I tend to under-react because of being afraid of not thinking clearly can lead to over-reacting.)
6) Maybe some denial, or that sense of this-can't-be-happening. Also not knowing if it will be people who will understand, or make matters worse.
7) That kind of stress makes my brain/ body overload, literally feel overwhelmingly like I will fall asleep, not light-headed like fainting, but fall asleep on the spot standing. I can't trust if I'm doing the right thing, & I'm unable to physically react.
I guess that's some of it.
(ETA, so I guess that's doubt, fear, prudence, understanding, restricted ability to act, denial, a sense of unrealness, not knowing what's the right thing to do).
