Superjen Banned - Anyone Else?

[Nicolette]

Sterre there are different circumstances like, if posting whilst suicidal, you will be instantly banned for the benefit of the community as a whole for a few days. If you do something which is against the guidelines you are normally just asked to correct/not continue doing etc and if noted and taken on board all is well.

Spammers get banned immediately. If you are out of control, attacking and being argumentative beyond reason you will be temporarily banned to be given the opportunity to calm down. Once the ban expires if you continue on the same level you could face permanent banning.

In most circumstances staff will point out an issue via PC with you and there is normally no further issue. If you fail to comply with editorial requests you could face a temporary ban and if you come back and continue to go against the grain then permanent banning is a possibility. In 99% of instances members are aware that they are crossing a line from an alert by staff and are given leniency however some choose to ignore it.

For example, with the Superjen situation I actually initiated a PC with her to try and work out the issue but she was determined to "agree to disagree" and "attack". So she chose her destiny. This was also one of an ongoing line of similar situations.

We are very fair, with the interests of the community as a whole our main focus, yet we understand sometimes people have a bad day so we just ask them to take the day off from the forum if that is the case. It is not common to just ban someone without reason or just cause.

If you read the rules and follow them you then will know by your own actions in accordance to them if you face banning or not. ie if you come onto the forum posting knowing you are suicidal. Pretty simple stuff.

 

[becvan]

Sterre, not only am I an ex-staffer but I was also a moderated member at one point. Being temporaily banned or moderated can be tough but a person can pull themselves out of the situation. In my situation it was completely necessary and helped me immensely. Being put into moderation helped me realize how out of control I was and that I was having some very serious issues and it was affecting the forum. It actually helped me see what I was doing and helped me get on track again.

Not all banning/moderating is final. Sometimes it has great results and can actually really help the person in that situation if they are willing to help themselves.

bec

 

[Sterre]

Ah, thanks for your extended answer Nicolette!

 

[Sterre]

....and Becvan!

I understand the "protocol" and motives for banning someone more clear now.
( sometimes the languagage barrier makes it difficult to understand some topic's, sorry for that)

 

[Nicolette]

Don't ever be sorry asking for clarification Sterre. It is good that you want to understand.

 

[Sterre]

Thanks!!!!

 

[amethist]

Bit early for the full moon, as it not due for another few days yet. 16th of march, if my memory is correct. LOL.

We all get a bit stressed at times. I have read posts that have really wound me up, for what ever reason. But instead of going on the attack with it, I walk away, log off for a while. Then come back in a different frame of mind, re read the post, maybe seeing that the member who posted it, had a valid point to make.

We all make mistakes, so a simple request or explanation of why we moderators have done what we have, should be taken as that.

A simple request and explanation.

Amethist.

 

[anni]

Oh dear. Sorry to see this. I wish the logging off, don't engage while wound-up thing Amethist just described was taken more as a neccessity by those of us who tend to fall victim to it. I swiped at SJ once in point of fact through NOT doing this, which helped drive the the lesson home.I just should have disallowed this in myself. She had things of value to add here and could be supportive when needed, so wish it had also gone home there.

 

[Jade-]

I feel bad that Superjen was banned. It's obvious she's been struggling with something lately, and that has been showing in her posts.

It's so easy to come to this site while in a pissy mood and want to take it out on the forum. There's been many times I've wanted to start a thread entitled "Everyone Can Just f*ck Off"....but I haven't. And it actually had nothing to do with the forum or the members, or staff, it was just how I was feeling inside at the time.

I have caused chaos and drama here, but I do think I'm learning self control and when I'm in a pissy mood, I try to think long and hard before I post. I actually think about the consequences now, where before I didn't really care. I know I still say things I probably shouldn't at times, but I don't think I do that as much as I did before.

 

[cherryblossom]

I think the nature of PTSD, (and also just human nature in general) is that we all react, and over-react at times. Sometimes 'we' need to take a step back, and sometimes it has to be enforced by a short ban, which is time for the member to either get their head together (welcome back

), or continue to rebel about basic rules. The rules are there for a reason - because they have been tested over time, and they work. Sometimes new members come along, thinking they know it all (maybe because they've been on another forum), and think they know how a forum works. But the reason this forum is so good, is because of the rules that exist here.

It's pretty typical, to join here, assume you know it all, post and then receive a warning, because the member hasn't bothered to read the initial instructions. As staff, we all try to make this forum safe. But you can't have safe, without rules. None of our decisions are personal, and 'banning' someone is never taken lightly, and rarely without prior warning except for spam.

When I joined I got warnings because I didn't follow rules - I did the same as others - upset, and distressed, I just posted without reading the rules. But I never tried to change the rules, or argue with the site owners. I quickly learned to read and conform to the rules (it really wasn't so difficult!), and make the most of all the information I had on offer.

Yeah, getting a warning pissed me off, but I came to value the rules of the forum, and all the reasons why the rules exist. I just wanted help, I didn't want to fight with anyone. So i worked with the rules, began to understand exactly why every rule exists and became a mod here (because I could see why this forum was so successful, compared to others).

Being angry and lashing out at admins/mods just doesn't work here. It's not tolerated, because it's just not necessary.

 

[Reclusive]

Thank you for letting us know what happened. I think by the nature of the board there could have been some real concern and worry happening above and beyond what's appropriate. If I ever biff a rule, please let me know - I try to be well behaved but... we all have our days.

 

[Heather]

I don't mean to be obtuse but what is a spammer?