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Superjen Banned - Anyone Else?

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Someone who posts advertising material (spam) on the forum for marketing, self promotion, advertising purposes etc. They have no purpose to be here other than trying to get you to go to their website, contact them etc.
 
Reacting and defensiveness seems to be a frustrating aspect of ptsd. I was always pretty good at not reacting but taking my time to act appropriately no matter what the situation, and that is not always present in me these days, which I find very hard to deal with. defensiveness and reaction...we just have to wait it out I guess and keep trying to overcome these parts of ourselves, and remember it's not who we are, it's ptsd that makes us this way.
 
Hee. I was exactly opposite and still am a little, when I joined. I couldn't have engaged in conflict with staff or anyone else if you shoved me into the gladiators arena, handed me a spear and locked the door behind me.I forget what I got warnings for, no doubt grammer, etc. but died 1000 deaths just from that. It was very, VERY good for me to learn to tolerate this, come back, process some genuine conflict when it did arise and figure this stuff out, you know? The forum is amazingly well balanced in this way, I have to say. I could even then objectively step back and look at things from the perspective Jadebear just wrote of here, when SJ and I did spend some time having some juvenile sulks with each other. That would have been impossible even a few months earlier and it's only due to the particular growth which transpired we each got over ourselves with that.

I'm sorry she's having a tough time wherever she is. I do wish to say I personally am awfully grateful it's safe here for the reasons it is. I've got experience which backs that up hugely. I couldn't tell from the post if she's banned for good ( very obtuse at the moment ) but if not, do hope she's able to step way, way, way back and see the the forest for all those PTSD reactive trees in the way.
 
to step way, way, way back and see the the forest for all those PTSD reactive trees in the way.

That's beautifully written!
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As the site admin, I simply do not come on here if my mood is not atleast 95% + stable... otherwise, it can be destructive to me, and members, being a position of authority and if I read something wrong... take something out on a member, etc. What you read from me is me typically... and whilst this forum is here to help everyone with PTSD come to some type of similar commonsense about our own actions, sometimes people just don't want to, aren't ready to, so the only outcome is their removal from the site.

Periodically, I do go through banned members and review them. I think nearly all I have unbanned at some point, as they get notified automatically when I do so, some never return, some have returned usually with the same attitude and rebanned, though then a few have returned with a different attitude, atleast respecting others and using commonsense a lot more.

People can and do change, hence healing PTSD is an example of that... so that chance is always offered to members who have been banned previously, whether they contact me or I unban them months or a year or so down the track.
 
I think it's harder for people in recovery to be able to see things from the mods point of view. Delving into painful things can often make us self-centred (not in a negative or bad sense), I just think that's the way it is. We might find it harder to step out of our experiences here to recognize the responsabilities that a Mod has, and it's easy to just write them off as A-holes or whatever.

It sounds like you take responsability for where you are at Anthony and take your role here seriously, and having to take an over view so that everyone feels safe, and not just the person having strong reactions or not stable at the time. I can appreciate that. I don't think I would envy the job myself, at this stage.
 
Just go read a forum that is dedicated to forum admins, they exist... you will see some interesting things people try, people attempt on forums. There are bored kids, there are real dangers, there are liars, there are malingerers, pedophiles, sexual sadists, spammers and scammers, and much more running around this web. It is near impossible to find some of them unless they trip themselves up... add to that, this forums topic is a mental health based one, it makes things that little more interesting!
 
God. It did occur to me that a place like this would be like a tasty snack for sexual sadists. Yuck! Thanks, I will have a look.
 
Gosh. I am going to be honest. I am so grateful for all the hard work to keep the forum safe. Just wanted to say that first.
I don't know if it is possible for anyone to ressure me a little as am terrified of doing something wrong. The grammar issue especially frightens me. I had a problem in the past being obsessive about grammar and spelling and have perposely tried to be less perfectionist about these for a year or so now. It has helped me enormously. I totally understand the reason for the rule - making things legible for others. It is just expectionally unhealthy for me to get pedantic about it.

As someone who thought they never got angry and for whom assertivness is painful I hope too that just asking questions or expressing an opinion in a polite way would not be an issue.

Are there consequences for the second point and with the first, what would be the normal approach if minor mistakes are made and yet all is still perfectly legible?

I am never aggressive or loose my temper with people and that is not really "normal" or "good".

Both these issues here directly link into trauma for me.

I can feel myself breaking out into a sweat already and feel sick. :(

Thanks again for all your hard work.
 
We don't ban people for grammar, we ban people for outright complete non-compliance to rules, disrespect towards editors, ie. getting angry with them when they are trying to enforce the rules.

Superjen was being an outright smartarse... nothing less. The grammar rule has always been very clear, being, basic grammar. She completely ignored the rules wording for wanting to cause arguments and be a smartarse. She has been consistently disrespectful to many staff here over the past months, and enough was enough.

Spammers are about the only people who are immediately banned, with zero redemption for being unbanned. Temporary bans are often used, ie. to let someone cool off, move past suicide, etc. When one member though consistently causes disruption and attempts to be smart towards staff with consistency, then action must be taken at some point, saying enough is enough.

Some new members don't always capitalise "i", and it is let go, or they write in sentences, a new line for each... and short posts are left alone and acceptable, providing it starts with a capital, ends with a fullstop, so readers can actually distinguish sentences. Long posts should be broken into paragraphs, with a clear line between each, so people can read one or two, go away, come back and know where to pickup again, as many read long posts that way.

There is nothing many with PTSD can do about it, depending on the severity of trauma upon the brain uniquely. I used to be that way, I can now read book after book, but it has taken me a long time to achieve... so the forum has always aimed at the worse level, which is where we usually all start, then that way as we improve, it only becomes easier for us.
 
Thanks Anthony,

I appreciate the response. I certainly was not commenting on the ban of this person and was just commenting on my own paranoia.
I believe I remember the post you are reffering to and it was pretty confrontational and came across as petty. It does help me a bit to realise that many small grammar mistakes are allowed by. Phew. :(

So I am gathering that you are saying that respectful but assertive questions are fine but abusive or perposful trouble making is not. ?
Thanks!
 
Yes, I completely understand why you ask us to do that. In the beginning I posted a really long thread and I did NOT break it up. I'm suprised anybody responded to it but they did. Now, if anyone does that I just move on because my brain just can't handle seeing something like that. It's just too much.

Short, broken up posts work best. It's easier to read and to process. So, there defintely is a method behind to why you do things Anthony people just need to realize that.
 
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