Survived Deposition

[AngelKeeperJ]

Hang in there (((Gloria)))!! They are only trying to make you back down, and give up! I don't see that happening with you! Try your best to live in the moment....the future will play out but you don't want to lose the joy of each day!!

 

[Gloria]

First the deposition, then my ex harrassing me, then my ex lying and the police officers lying and then the psychiatric exam. Now they offer an offer letter and instead request this ridiculous amount of paperwork.

 

[mamachick]

Did they finally make you an offer or just request more paperwork?

 

[Gloria]

They asked my lawyer to send them an offer letter but then turned around and asked for a ridiculous and impossible thing - all my e-mails since January 2008. I am waiting for answer from my internet provider and if it is not possible, we will send a short sweet note saying sorry but information not available.

 

[mamachick]

Yuck. Not much of an offer...emails-who knows-that is ignorant and stupid....sorry.

<Edited for posting in bold and capitalization. Please keep artistic posting for the Chit Chat area only. Amethist>

 

[Srain]

More hoop jumping, it's just a way of saying "who ever has the most documentation wins", an old corporate trick. A device to make people quit, don't let it wear you out, it's meant to.

(((((((((((((Gloria)))))))))))) Hang in there GF

peace and strength,
Rain

 

[Gloria]

My weight loss alarmed me yesterday when I realized that the pants that were hanging on me so baggy were not a size 4 or 6 but a size 2. I am feeling very weak. I feel like three years of my life have been taken from me.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

My weight loss alarmed me yesterday when I realized that the pants that were hanging on me so baggy were not a size 4 or 6 but a size 2. I am feeling very weak. I feel like three years of my life have been taken from me.

(((Gloria)))
You have to take care of yourself, or THEY will win!! Even if you have to drink supplemental drinks (Boost tastes great)! I know I say this often...Don't give up, or give in!!! And that means YOU! I'm looking forward to reading about your victory, and being able to throw all that paperwork away. Plan a party! Celebrate you!!

 

[Gloria]

I got out of bed and am calling my attorney. Unfortunately, I told my therapist but not my attorney how my ex was harrassing me and that I reported him for committing a crime. I am going to try to make it in to my therapist's appointment. I will keep you updated.

 

[mamachick]

Gloria, you do have to take care of yourself. When you win this, you do not want to not be able to enjoy the victory because of health issues.
I had an accident in 2006 where a major food chain was neglegent (it was all on video). I already sustained injuries, including head injury and life was changed for ever. For three years they starved me out. My attorney would not settle in 2008 because he settled other cases and made too much money. After 3 and half years we went to mediation. I was so broke and desperate and by now ptsd reactivated strong. We settled but I was too ill to even know how to manage any money. I lost so much during this 3 yr period (health, family, job, mental health, will to live, hope, trust in people, ) That is there goal. When you are desperate, you will settle for less. You begin to think anything is better than nothing. You begin to question yourself and loose confidence if you do not eat and sleep properly and nourish your body and brain. I don't want to sound like a lecturer but I have heard your desperation at times as well. (even selling things to make ends meet)

People do not get rich from suing (regardless of what some people think) and usually get less than they deserve. However, for those who are genuinely injured, the fight for what is right affects every aspect of our being. You must take good care of yourself to stay strong. Hugs to you

 

[Gloria]

Well, I just left a message for my attorney telling him that I reported my ex for bancruptcy fraud way back in February or March and that there would be thousands of e-mails to retrieve for three years and that I receive over 100 e-mails a day which most are filtered because of junk mail.

Just talked to my lawyer and told him what I did. It reminded me of when I was a child and got a poor grade on a paper and was told that I would have to bring it home and get one of my parent's signature. I would be in total terror because I knew I was going to badly beaten. Well, I told me lawyer what I did and it's actually a good thing. The lawyers can't say I was friends with Jeff when he gave his deposition because Jeff lied about everything except the things that the lawyer had written down a year before in his notes. He couldn't lie about that. My lawyer just told me that he never saw anyone as depressed as my ex at the deposition because he hardly showed any expression.

So I'm off to my therapist and Farm and Fleet to buy my grain. I managed to get out of bed again today and I will try to eat. Now I'm waiting for the psychiatrist report. I am positive he will confirm that I was extemely traumatized by the assault. Every time there was a lull in the case, I started becoming so healthy. One letter, seeing anything that reminds me of what they did and how they get away with it crashes me. I can't even listen to other people tell me how the police beat them up because it really upsets. I sit there like I'm in a coma. It's either disassociation or flashbacks but it's bad.

 

[Gloria]

I am very lucky. I talk to people all the time that lost their homes,their jobs and their spouses because of all the problems caused by the economy. I would be in good shape if I didn't have three horses to feed but I got an e-mail about a horse farm that went bancrupt with almost 500 horses and no one could take them and they were registered and papers. I know someone on the forum who had to sell her horse for financial. Because I would be so worried about what could happen to them, I can't give them away or sell them. I want to be sure that they will always have food and water and protections from the elements. Right now, I haven't ridden for months because pf the rain and heat and now the mosquitos. I can't wait until Fall. I will ride again.

I'm going to the store to get a big roast to cook for my sons and I. Tomorrow my friend is taking me to dinner so I will try to eat. Same thing with me. My lawyer had other cases that made him money so he put on the back burner until now. It's been three years and I still have nightmares. I'm still freaked out when I find out that the police can get away with this all the time. I don't feel safe anymore. It could happen again. I don't do drugs or drink or anything but I could still get in trouble. I am now aware that a police officer could kill me and get away with it. I just don't feel safe anymore. This has been going on for three years. It's cost me my health, many friendships, money, stress, stress for my poor sons and people who care about me.

If I had to do over again. I would run anytime a police came near me. I know what they can do now. Every morning I wake up and the first thing that I remember is the assault so I have to tell myself it's not happening now. It's easier because of my dogs and cat sleeping with me. They are a great comfort to me.

Thanks so much. I want to apologize for being such a baby but my therapist told me not to think like that. I have tried so hard to not let this affect me and others.