Sufferer Surviving Family Stalking: My Story of Abuse

[Faithgurl]

Greetings, I was unable to find a support group where I could go in person, so I found this group here.
Thankyou for allowing me to join.
I recently got severely triggered, etc when I discovered my family of origin has been stalking me.
The local domestic violence support groups said I couldn't come to their groups, even tho I'm a domestic violence survivor ( Multiple ER visits, etc)
My family of origin has also been abusive with me ( physical, emotional, etc)
I've attempted to get them into family counseling ( they've always refused, especially after I've been assaulted)
Well years ago I'd had a problem with them and discovered my mother was making up lies about me (she said these things no only to me, but also to my therapist..and told my therapist they would NEVER go to counseling
Anyway, I recently moved over 2,000 miles away from them because my neices and their mom were l try to move into my house along with stealing from me, etc.
I just couldn't take any more, so I sold my house and moved to get my peace back
. I got anote in the mail from my mom in December stating she just looked online to get my address ( after I told her more than once she couldn't have my address)
Well also last summer my ring camera picked up a car pulling up to my house and sitting there, it looked like my mom was sitting in the driver's seat
I explained to her I didn't need parenting nor her thing me what tod.( I'm almost 70 years old).
Anyway I guess I needed to vent, I've been angry and upset for months now.
I've got to start all over on working on myself again, now I wonder what is the next stunt they will pull on me?
Anyone else have this problem?
Thankyou for listening.
They won't go to any family counseling and continue to gaslight me and attempt to control me.

 

[Riley Jones]

I'm so sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing with your family of origin. It sounds like you have been through so much, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling angry and upset right now. Finding out that your family has been stalking you and continuing to be abusive can be incredibly distressing.

You are not alone in this. Many people in our community have experienced similar struggles with family members who deny or downplay the impact of their actions. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and safety, which includes setting boundaries and seeking support.

I commend you for taking steps to distance yourself from a toxic environment by moving 2,000 miles away. It's essential to protect yourself from further harm. It's also understandable that receiving unwanted contact from your family, such as the note from your mother and the concerning incident with the car outside your house, would cause distress.

Venting and sharing your experiences can be a helpful way to process what you're going through. Remember that your feelings are valid, and it's okay to seek support from others who understand what you're going through.

In our community at myptsd.com, you can find understanding and empathy from individuals who have experienced similar situations. There are specific forums where you can discuss topics like family dynamics, abuse, boundaries, and coping strategies related to PTSD and CPTSD.

If you feel overwhelmed or need additional support, I encourage you to consider reaching out to a mental health professional who specializes in trauma and can provide you with guidance and coping mechanisms tailored to your situation.

You are resilient, and it's commendable that you are committed to working on yourself and your healing journey. Remember that you deserve to prioritize your well-being and safety above all else. Keep sharing your experiences and seeking support – you are not alone in this journey.

Warm regards,
Riley Jones

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum:)

There are folks here who have experience with stalking - hopefully you find some strategies that help you move forward.

 

[Ecdysis]

I'm confused. You write like a young person but say you're nearly 70? So your mother is around 90 ? and driving 2000 miles to sit outside your house in a car?

 

[arfie]

hello faith. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

gentle empathy on the family stalking drama. i use psychotherapy tools to resist the urge to collect evidence, but i still feel stalked nearly half a century after estranging myself from my birth family. family members keep popping up at the least convenient moments to keep me believing it more than paranoia, but the search for evidence feeds my paranoia mightily.

but that is me and every case is unique. steadying support while you sort your own case. welcome aboard.

for what it's worth
alanon has been my most reliable source of live support for dealing with this symptom.

 

[Faithgurl]

I'm confused. You write like a young person but say you're nearly 70? So your mother is around 90 ? and driving 2000 miles to sit outside your house in a car?

She announced on social media she was going to AZ with her new husband to visit someone, 2 weeks after that She was sitting outside my house, yes. She is very controlling and has enabled all the abuse in the family since my childhood. I am invalidated, gaslighted, abused, or ignored most of the time. When she is not attempting to control me. There is a long history of some things that happened 20 yrs ago when I really needed to get a restraining order against them ( the court clerk told me I needed to have an intimate relationship with anyone requesting a RO on).

I'm so sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing with your family of origin. It sounds like you have been through so much, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling angry and upset right now. Finding out that your family has been stalking you and continuing to be abusive can be incredibly distressing.

You are not alone in this. Many people in our community have experienced similar struggles with family members who deny or downplay the impact of their actions. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and safety, which includes setting boundaries and seeking support.

I commend you for taking steps to distance yourself from a toxic environment by moving 2,000 miles away. It's essential to protect yourself from further harm. It's also understandable that receiving unwanted contact from your family, such as the note from your mother and the concerning incident with the car outside your house, would cause distress.

Venting and sharing your experiences can be a helpful way to process what you're going through. Remember that your feelings are valid, and it's okay to seek support from others who understand what you're going through.

In our community at myptsd.com, you can find understanding and empathy from individuals who have experienced similar situations. There are specific forums where you can discuss topics like family dynamics, abuse, boundaries, and coping strategies related to PTSD and CPTSD.

If you feel overwhelmed or need additional support, I encourage you to consider reaching out to a mental health professional who specializes in trauma and can provide you with guidance and coping mechanisms tailored to your situation.

You are resilient, and it's commendable that you are committed to working on yourself and your healing journey. Remember that you deserve to prioritize your well-being and safety above all else. Keep sharing your experiences and seeking support – you are not alone in this journey.

Warm regards,
Riley Jones

Thankyou, I've been trying to find a professional here, since moving here. I will keep trying. This entire incident triggered my cptsd and I was just beginning to calm down, now I've got to start over.

hello faith. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

gentle empathy on the family stalking drama. i use psychotherapy tools to resist the urge to collect evidence, but i still feel stalked nearly half a century after estranging myself from my birth family. family members keep popping up at the least convenient moments to keep me believing it more than paranoia, but the search for evidence feeds my paranoia mightily.

but that is me and every case is unique. steadying support while you sort your own case. welcome aboard.

for what it's worth
alanon has been my most reliable source of live support for dealing with this symptom.

Thankyou for your support, oh Alanon crossed my mind just the other day, I'll look into that too! Thankyou very much!!!
It's easy to feel alone when dealing with these things.

Welcome to the forum:)

There are folks here who have experience with stalking - hopefully you find some strategies that help you move forward.

Yes thankyou. I'm considering changing my name to start.

I'm so sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing with your family of origin. It sounds like you have been through so much, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling angry and upset right now. Finding out that your family has been stalking you and continuing to be abusive can be incredibly distressing.

You are not alone in this. Many people in our community have experienced similar struggles with family members who deny or downplay the impact of their actions. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and safety, which includes setting boundaries and seeking support.

I commend you for taking steps to distance yourself from a toxic environment by moving 2,000 miles away. It's essential to protect yourself from further harm. It's also understandable that receiving unwanted contact from your family, such as the note from your mother and the concerning incident with the car outside your house, would cause distress.

Venting and sharing your experiences can be a helpful way to process what you're going through. Remember that your feelings are valid, and it's okay to seek support from others who understand what you're going through.

In our community at myptsd.com, you can find understanding and empathy from individuals who have experienced similar situations. There are specific forums where you can discuss topics like family dynamics, abuse, boundaries, and coping strategies related to PTSD and CPTSD.

If you feel overwhelmed or need additional support, I encourage you to consider reaching out to a mental health professional who specializes in trauma and can provide you with guidance and coping mechanisms tailored to your situation.

You are resilient, and it's commendable that you are committed to working on yourself and your healing journey. Remember that you deserve to prioritize your well-being and safety above all else. Keep sharing your experiences and seeking support – you are not alone in this journey.

Warm regards,
Riley Jones

Thankyou