Talking About War With Spouses And Girl/Boyfriends

[BV101]

You see, this was the thread I should have added to instead of starting another. Christ on a bike, I'm not that bright sometimes am I? Anyway, my bit was blah blah, I started to tell the other half and was referred to the box marked get a grip... Maybe I should just get on with things and stop bleating.

 

[BV101]

oh and my "favourite" films that I watch are Grbavica, Pretty Village Pretty Flame, and No Mans Land. The lack of happy endings are a common theme. Mostly I watch this though. Footage from my old actual front. There are some people on it I recognise. And I watch it over and over again... Thats probably not all that healthy I suppose.

 

[Lady Michigan]

After reading some of these posts, maybe one of you can help me.
Is there anyway to ask about the war and the experiences they went thought without really asking, if you know what I mean. Because I know your not really suppose to ask, they will tell you.

I've been with my b/f for about a year, and it's been a crazy roller coaster of emotions. He has told me some things like he has basically killed other people and saw some pretty horrific things. But he doesn't really tell me what he is feeling, and why.
I'm pretty sure its because he doesn't want to scare me, or because i didnt experience it so I wont understand, as I read in some other posts...
anyways this causes issues with me because when hes really feeling down, he just shows it and doesnt say a word.
So is there anyway to talk to your PTSD boyfriend in a way it wont set him off even worse, or any other things I can do to help make things easier??or is just leaving him alone the only thing \.
Thank you All

 

[track108]

Alan todd i also look at some pictures from iraq that i have, i havent told my T about it, i also watch videos on youtube ive seen some of my friends and some of the places ive been, i can handle it most the time, i always get a racing heart and feel kinda dizzy when i watch them. I wonder if it is unhealthy to do this.

 

[track108]

Oh and sorry LM i meant to put this in the post above. My ex-wife would always ask me what happened over there and it would piss me off to no end, i told her it was bad and i shot at people but i didnt want her to know anything darker than that. I dont know what to tell you except say i love you and ask him if he wants anything