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[LuckiLee]

He'll take it seriously when you tell him he needs to follow through or he's not allowed back in the home. It will be hard but you have to set this boundary.

 

[Erin Lee]

He'll take it seriously when you tell him he needs to follow through or he's not allowed back in the ho...

I know. I want to say that and be able to follow through with it but it’s so hard :/

 

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@Erin Lee you did the best you could in that moment so don’t be hard on yourself. I’m so glad he is at the hospital.

I will be praying he decides and is ready to go to an inpatient center. I will also pray for you and the children.

I would say not to worry and try and rest and focus on you but I know I would so I’ll just pray for peace, rest, and comfort for you and your husband. I will pray for God to guide you both through this and that nothing like this happens again. My heart goes out to you.

 

[Freida]

I'll keep reminding you that you did the right thing but I agree with @leehalf the boundaries must be set. If he doesn't understand think about showing him what i wrote about the kids. Please make them your priority....and for them to be safe he needs to get help. I don't mean safe as in he would harm them. I mean safe as in they have to live with his choices.

I'll be honest...I may be out of line because one of the things I'm working on in therapy right now is a call from a 9 year old who found her mom hanging. The family knew she was suicidal and left her home with the kids anyway. That call really messed me up so if I'm coming across as berating please know that's not my intent. I may just be too triggered to be rational and if so I apologize. By please please protect your kids from that.

Ok. I promise I'm done now!!!

Oh wait! I lied. Therapy for you is good too!! It was amazing for me to let go of the guilt and learn to set those healthy boundaries to keep us both safe. It sucks your t didn't follow thru but don't give up. A good one is out there for you!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I pray he has a different attitude tomorrow and that he agrees to start some sort of consistent therapy.

I keep on praying for this too. I think anger is good in that he has moved from his original position I suspect. He is fighting for now it seems. Maybe, he will hear from some wise person the need to begin to work in therapy and maybe it may sink in.

I understand how difficult it is for you to keep up the normal routines in your life. I went through a different but similar situation with my husband and he did seek treatment and it made our lives so much better after I left with my daughter on the advise of a sheriff who came to collect his guns. There is hope but no guarantees and I understand how hard it is go through what you are going through right now although our situations are different.

I am praying for you and the children too.

 

[Erin Lee]

@Erin Lee you did the best you could in that moment so don’t be hard on your...

Thank you for your prayers. I haven’t asked him what his thoughts are on going to an in-patient facility but I have a feeling he’s going to be very against it... which breaks my heart. I’m not sure I’m ready to say “in-patient or I’m gone” but he definitely needs to agree to something way more intensive.

I'll keep reminding you that you did the right thing but I agree with @leehalf the...

Don’t worry - I’m not taking anything you’re saying the wrong way. I can sense your passion and it doesn’t bother me in the least so don’t apologize. I agree that these girls are a priority. And I do worry about the mental consequences they might suffer if something happens. Definitely something worth discussing with him when he’s in a better state of mind.

I keep on praying for this too. I think anger is good in that he has moved from his original position I su...

I thought he same thing... I liked that he felt a different type of anger. And today he sounds totally different. Still not happy but there’s life in his voice... which wasn’t there since everything happened. He also apologized for taking his anger out on me which makes me think he’s starting to recognize that this isn’t my fault. Just praying things continue to progress.

Thank you for your continued thoughts!

 

[Erin Lee]

I just want to say thank you to every single person who has commented on this thread. I can literally feel all of your prayers and I’ve even told my mom I have this weird sense of peace even with all of the chaos surrounding me - and I know that’s from all the support I’m receiving here. So thank you all... soooo much!

 

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@Erin Lee glad to hear. Continue to reach out to us. We are here for you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I thought he same thing... I liked that he felt a different type of anger. And today he sounds totally different. Still not happy but there’s life in his voice...

I think that this is really encouraging. I am so happy to hear how much peace you are feeling. I have learned that I usually can work through anything with prayers and healthy support so far anyways hope I am not jynxing myself by saying this.

How are the children managing right now?:hug:

 

[Erin Lee]

I think that this is really encouraging. I am so happy to hear how much peace you are feeling. I have lear...

The two oldest went back to New York this morning - they really missed him on Christmas but they still had a really good time. I tried my hardest to give them a wonderful Christmas. And he was able to call last night and talk to them. Perfect timing too because the oldest was actually crying a few minutes before he called because she was worried about him. But she puckered up after they talked - and they were all smiles this morning and even made him pictures before they left. Our toddler has no idea what’s going on and has been having the time of her life with my parents. I’m lucky that my parents live less than 5 mins away and my mom works from home. It’s been amazing to have so much help. It’s given me a lot of time to focus on my own health right now, my husband’s and what’s next on his path.

 

[Freida]

I agree with @Rain ..a different kind of anger can be a great thing...hopefully its the kind of anger that gets him moving in the right direction

 

[Erin Lee]

I got to visit him tonight. He seemed more like himself tonight than he has in the last 6-7 months. I know the new medicine isn’t “working” yet but the things he was saying and how he seemed made me feel so much better about everything.

Sadly he didn’t recall the entire situation - which is why initially he was upset that I called 911 and kept saying I didn’t need too. But once I told him everything that happened, he immediately changed his tune. He said he was glad I called and wasn’t upset with me at all. He even said he agrees that it sounds like it was necessary. Today he said he wanted to fight this... and he wasn’t ready to give up. I pray he is genuine in all his words.