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[Erin Lee]

@EveHarrington I’m not sure if you realize how hurtful those words were or not, but I hope you are more supportive with other people. I feel guilty enough and I don’t need to come to a support board to have someone tell me that, in a sense, I’m a bad mother.

Thank you all for your support in my time of need. I will no longer be posting here as it’s clear that not everyone can keep their negative comments to themselves. Hope you all have a wonderful New Years.

 

[joeylittle]

Thank you all for your support in my time of need. I will no longer be posting here as it’s clear that not everyone can keep their negative comments to themselves. Hope you all have a wonderful New Years.

You might want to read our Community Constitution. You'll see that support doesn't always come in the form of encouragement - sometimes it's beneficial for people to be challenged.

That being said, it's never a bad time to remind sufferers that you are in the supporter area. Although this is stickied at the top of the Supporter Relationships board, it's also relevant here: Link Removed

 

[hithere]

My heart goes out to you and your whole family. I can understand how your guy was in such a state. I hope he does indeed get better. Please really hug the 5 year old very closely and let her know she can talk to you. Please don't dismiss her fears or leave her to own resiliency. I have abandonment trauma from childhood caused by these types of things and the core of that is the "aloneness" of it. Being dismissed, and though maybe I wasn't ignored but it felt like and that trauma is so hard to heal. However, my abandonment trauma is now being healed. The key is to have someone "let inside", someone physically and emotionally being with you in the chaos. Having a positive attitude, but yet still very nurturing and validating the scary emotions. Have a hope for recovery for your husband and nurturing for your step daughter. Let her know it's not because she came for Christmas or that she is a burden. Thank you

Ughhhh this never ends!

Background - my husband is temporarily retired (medically), he’s 3 years i...

Oh, this does not sound good and I am so very sorry. I hope something happens that turns this around (and a new therapist.) I think getting another professional opinion about her 9pm texts may be helpful? I'm thinking of you and your family and hoping for a complete turn around.

 

[Freida]

So how are you all doing???

 

[mindys1550]

I want you to know that I admire you for taking care of your husband and trying to understand his issues. You are doing all of the right things. You, the kids and dad will be in my prayers. Keep working on the problems and keeping dad safe. It will improve just take one day at a time and look for the good moments. Holding on to those will give you hope.