I am trying to understand this whole thread. The points of views? All though I had therapists who were not well experienced or trained at times. I can not forget the fact that I had no money and no choice for who I had some of those times. I always new the choice of quitting. I needed right then someone who would listen nonjudgmental. They worked. I have had other very qualified therapist who have taught me so much. Challenged me to leave my box. I am hoping the 4 steps are the answer.
It's very easy to spot a doer from a talker / thinker, even in text.
It scares the heck out of me to believe that judgment would be made that you would be a doer, talker or thinker just by what you write in text on this forum. No one walks in your shoes. Everyone has there own way of dealing. I do not think anyone can say ok doer you are going to heal yourself. Get up read some books do some tools and you will be fine. If you can't you do not fit what I think is the norm. I had no idea people were making such harsh judgments about others here. Do I believe people can help them self? Of course depending on many circumstances and not my place to judge.
The problem is that so many are just simply too lazy
This just saddens me. Many people have to struggle with this in there day to day life from family, friends and the public as a whole. It is a devastating statement. We should not have to read this here. Question where do I fall in judgment on the PTSD forum? Possibly a step backwards for some with poor self esteem issues. A well documented PTSD symptom.
I personally feel my journey is what it is. It is my journey to healing. I once needed someone to carry me and depend on. Alternative I do not know. Would I be here today. I was not very strong at the time. I was also misdiagnosed for years. A high functioning woman hearing things about herself that do not make sense and were devastating. After losing a marriage, job, home and my children. I found myself blaming me cause I was broken and could not see a way out of what I was told. Yes it stunk but I learned a whole lot of tools then. Sometimes healing takes as long as it takes.
What makes me often think of failure for PTSD, and this is based on this sites majority are females who've been sexually abused, is that many in that trauma category want an empathetic female for them to listen. There is no common sense, no outside of the box concepts or ideas, not pushing the person to get back outside their comfort zone.
Where is the research on this statement? The part about trauma category? Could it be that some women and men need more compassion and empathy then other women and men? I hardly think it is the failure of PSTD. My opinion here. Could it be that those who haven't suffered child sexual abuse do not have a clue. That is what those with do need to work through?
I have had men and women therapists. All of them I judge on their ability to help me professionally not by there gender. Some therapists of both genders failed me miserably. Thank goodness other therapists of both genders helped me towords my progress.
I do not think the understanding and treatment was as readily available about PTSD to the general population with real traumas until recent years. That was a disability for me. I was suffering from the PTSD not from the other wrong diagnosis. I had lived a normal get up go everyday life for 45 years. I understand what that is. These debilitating symptoms are not in my head. I now have a wonderful therapist who is extensively trained in what she claims is the cure of PTSD and does EMDR. I am thankful.
I had sexual child abuse buried deep. Until EMDR I did not even know it existed. Should do EMDR first? It sounds like a good option. I would have been able to get a correct diagnosis. But then again if you cannot function without DBT or CBT tools how could you ever handle EMDR? I think whatever work it took for me to get here was necessary. Questioning is not productive. I am happy with my progress. I am thankful to have had the opportunity to have therapists. Lots of them!
