Even though my heart knows it feels right I have to be mindful of the greif to. Ive spent most of my adulthood as a perpeptual boy looking for mother after abandonment by my biological mother. No goods ever come of it though just a lot of codependency. finally had the strength to let go of such a relationship ..Its not that she was a bad person but a member of a rigid beleif system and had a desire to convert me and had a difficult relationship with her own son. I finally realised that by latching on to other familys to try and replace your own you just end up with double the trouble as all familys have crap so I may as well just stick to my own familys crap. Would love to hear from those who have had any similair experiences.