The Neighbor Offered

[Wolvescry]

My bf put up security cameras all around our home. I want to inform all our neighbors that may be in view of the cameras out of courtesy. When going to my neighbors house they asked why I put the cameras up. I can't exactly say, because I am scared that past attackers may come back. So I say just to make me feel safe when my bf is not home.

The male neighbor let me know, if I am ever afraid or in danger to just scream out and he will come. This was a very kind and reassuring offer and it does help me feel a bit more safe.

Later my mind could not help ponder. I couldn't help but remember all the times I have screamed in the past, and no one ever came. I screamed things like "Someone call the police" "Help me" "He is hurting me" no one ever came, in fact my neighbors would just make comments on how I should just leave him. They were right, and I wish I had the ability to call the police myself.

I can hear myself screaming. As if I am listening to someone else. But I try to hold on to the good, maybe I can take this as a sign and lesson, to talk to the neighbors, and build a safety net.

 

[Rizen]

Are your neighbors different now? It's good you're doing things to be safe.

 

[arfie]

I like networks with lots of redundant nodes, whether for safety, therapy, physical health, communications, mechanical maintenance, research or whatever. If one node is down for whatever reason, I like to have a back-up.

Good for you, Wolvescry. Good move.

 

[Wolvescry]

I have only talked to them once before, when I was fostering a dog and want to give my number in case the noise got loud. I haven't had enough contact to know if they are different from before.

I am horrible at networking to be honest.

 

[pamcoco]

They don't come. That's just the reality proven through the advice to always scream FIRE. My neighbors whom had called the police, stayed up for hours waiting for them to show up, when I was out of town but my dogs were barking, felt no need to leave the threshold of their home when I came banging and pleading regarding the man with a knife, encountered in my hallway.

It is anti-intuitive but the worse and more real the scenario, less action is taken by the average witness. Some say this has to do with the bio-chemical make up of the witnesses, in which most are flooded with anxiety in crisis, frozen. Likewise the witness that does respond is the bio-chemically overly calm, triggered to action only in crisis, aka, those with adhd.

Hard for me to judge since I have been the first one on the fallen man giving cpr while others drank cocktails, the one chasing the burglar that robbed my neighbors home, the one parking my car on a blind corner of the busiest freeway interchange in LA to grab a distraught cat perched on a cement post 30 ft high. I have no choice, I am forced to action when action is needed, while others are frozen by possibilities, contemplating. Meekly, I admit adhd, which seems dirty somehow. Although, proudly, I stand for action in the face of fear and better judgement, and I wouldn't change a thing in this instinct.

I calm my current ptsd fear of the intruder by knowing my escape route at all times and knowing that no ones intuition is better than mine in a situation for which I am threatened. I trust me in this scenario and since you are still here there must be something in YOU that is the voice to keep you safest. F the neighbors, scream for your instincts to fill you with the decision making of a wild animal, not unlike the image you present. We are one with the wolf, internally, in all situations that threaten our life.

 

[shimmerz]

@Wolvescry I use totem animals alot but for different reasons each one of them exists. I have a panther for protection, a bear to fight, an eagle to see the whole picture etc. I have found that calling up each of these animals for their own specific reasons has been a tremendous help to me as the more I use them the more they integrate into me and allow me to feel what it is like to have these qualities as well.

I as well had people after me and was terrified of someone 'getting into my house'. It was not safe for me and I as well asked people over and over again to listen. They did not. I am wondering if you could use some sort of animal as a visualization to give you a voice. Or if that doesn't call to you, is there someone who does listen to you? It sounds like your bf hears you....as he put in the cameras which is a validation itself. Is he a good protector for you? Could he assess who in your neighbourhood is trustworthy for you to go to.

It is a difficult situation when you cannot tell others. I hope you can get to a place where you will be able to trust in someone in your area that if something were to happen that they would recognize and be strong enough to come to your aid if something were to happen.

I feel you....

Love and Light
Shimmerz

 

[KP the nut]

They don't come.

Some may not come but there are also those that do. I am so grateful to the elderly couple who came out of their house to my daughters aid when she was randomly attacked on the street.

The male neighbor let me know, if I am ever afraid or in danger to just scream out and he will come. This was a very kind and reassuring offer and it does help me feel a bit more safe.

I know my neighbours would come if I shouted. It is a nice feeling.

 

[pamcoco]

I am pleased for different experiences. I was attacked twice by strangers and not only did the neighbors not come, nor did the lapd. So I figure others coming to my aid is a fabulous benefit in a horrible situation.

But, I will not lay my life on the line depending upon another as I am the best advocate I have. And if I entertain the thought there is another advocate, it may already be too late.

 

[Wolvescry]

Wow Shimmerz, that is some great advice. It is very interesting way of grounding yourself. I am excited to try it myself and see where it can take me.

Pamoco you seem so wise, thank for your input.

Hearing everyone's experience helps give me hope. Its strange discovering people can be good again. Its a whole new experience. Thanks for all the support.