I think this thread is a great idea. I have yet to post in the Angry Thread yet, but I think it's an incredibly therapeutic, safe and relieving space. Knowing it's there is comforting to me. The idea that anger and frustration, when it does rear its head--however ugly, unfair, selfish, resentful, built up, explosive or nasty--has a place to land. It can be expelled somehow, and we can process it in a way that may be easy, even if they are emotions that are fleeting and those that we are in no way proud of.
Having this thread, not necessarily to complement the Angry Thread but as its own space to celebrate accomplishments, progress and simple joy is equally therapeutic in my eyes. The good moments can be easy to forget in bad times--having a written reminder and simply taking time to appreciate and be grateful can make a significant difference in my well-being. For me personally, this is particularly true if I can revisit and gain some perspective or balance to my emotional state.
Okay enough babbling--MY POSITIVE SPIEL:
This week my boyfriend has taken time to talk to me about some of the memories his is revisiting during his EMDR sessions. The trust and open communication he is sharing with me makes me incredibly happy. Additionally, the fact that he recognized that discussing it would be helpful for him. His dedication to his therapy and treatment makes me feel such love and respect for him. I also appreciate the accomplishment of him acting on and carrying out something therapeutic (to himself and in some ways our connection and bond) despite how scary as challenging it is.
I am happy that he has been consistently finding me as soon as he comes home to say hello, and instigating affection or consistently accepting it with open arms. I feel so loved, and the simple acknowledgement and excitement shown in seeing me makes me feel appreciated.
We have been enjoying little things that make me feel light and free. We found a mutually-enjoyed tv show we are binge watching, are obsessed with a yummy new take out place, and are trying a silly new adult toy. All of the the little, basic couples activities we have enjoyed together this month make me giddy. I love when we share carefree nights and days, when we don't have engagements and our time is magically dictated by love and silliness alone.
I am grateful that I found a therapist for myself and look forward to seeing her this week.