Therapist said dissociation increases aggression

[Recovery4Me]

It’s not her forte, it’s not my job to educate her

There were many valuable takeaways from this thread for me yet one thing stood out. You are a true teacher with heart. For myself, I found certain opportunities presented itself that indicated my T was actually listening and hearing the nuances of our disabilities. During those sessions, I would present a list of websites and YouTubes offering if he had time concerning PTSD, ect. Shortly thereafter, (and still continuing) he attended quite a few seminars which in turn helped me immensely.

So I guess my point is~
sometimes a parting gift is better than a parting shot.

 

[blackemerald1]

It may be that, as an anger expert, she does see people who have this problem.

^This is her stated 'bread & butter' work - so she's likely to see ppl who fit.

But it isn’t your problem. So, hopefully the issue turns out to be a non-issue.

^Agreed. Since it's not your problem JMH - I'd ignore it.

, I’m going to keep skipping over the weird for this short season of working together and stick to focusing on what’s helpful.

^Good plan. She's got some helpful stuff to impart. Use that and move on.

 

[susannahsays]

Aggression and dissociation aren't mutually exclusive, but it's certainly misleading to make a blanket statement that dissociation increases aggression - particularly that dissociation increases your aggression. Dissociation and aggression can be linked in some people, but the opposite is true for most others. Just seems like a bizarre statement. I would be irritated unless you had expressed anger issues, in which case the dissociation angle could be a valid one to consider (though seems irrelevant in the context of insurance...).

 

[siniang]

What I'm really reading between your lines is that you don't really feel comfortable with said T and that statement just fortified your mistrust. You seem to have a history of really bad luck with therapists and I'm sorry about that. But don't try to force something that's not gonna happen, namely working with here when it doesn't fit. I personally wouldn't address it, but I'm one who shys away from addressing disagreement/conflicts, but I would also try to remove myself from the situation alltogether. I'm not good at just letting things slip.

You asked why you started therapy again. You must have had a reason. Try to remember this. But it might not be with that T.

Every trauma therapist who has known the trauma history says I blame myself too much... and this therapist too... so I’m lost. Totally lost.

Ugh, yes! This came up in my last session, T. Well, obviously showing (exaggerated) blame for the trauma (and other things) is a tell-tale sign of PTSD. But still...my T tried really hard to convince me that my "mistake" (if it even was one and not me just being stubborn, as usual, tempting fate) did not cause the trauma. The bad person would've been a bad person regardless and nothing about me would have changed that. Uhm...yes. But no. I mean, yeah of course, but my trauma still happened because >I< made that mistake. I don't overly blame myself, but it was my action. Causality.

I wish therapists would work more with that instead of disregarding ANY influence whatsoever. The spectrum of possible traumas is too widespread for umbrella statements like this, in my regard. And really, don't they, by taking away even the tiniest piece of influence/"control" on your part for the situation, victimize you?

 

[TraumaMama]

Well, I just googled it, and it looks like there is a link between violent behavior and dissociation. I personally don’t feel more aggressive though.